The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

I write and speak a lot about finding the meaning of your life. But I would also like to pass along some ways that are not necessarily spiritual in nature, having to do with your every day happiness and your day-by-day search for meaning.

Here are five tips that may help you in your practical life to be happy with yourself. When you are happy with yourself the world seems so much brighter and more generous.

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1. Don’t procrastinate. One of the strongest killers of well-being is to put off doing what needs done. Sometimes these needs-doing things pile up so high that the climb looks impossible.

Do what needs done as quickly as possible. Try not to let undone things get ahead of you. You will feel happier.

If you are a list maker, then by all means make lists where you can check off accomplished tasks or events.

If you are not a list maker, you may wish to develop a chart wherein you keep track of your accomplishments. Keeping account in some such manner will help you to keep from dragging your feet.

2. Finish what you start. This follows right behind procrastination as a happiness killer. Leaving projects uncompleted will weigh upon your spirit.

In my view, it is a fact that you ought not start anything you do not intend to finish. Sounds simple enough. But you might be surprised at the number of people who have good intentions, but that’s all they have. They have no power to finish.

Give your life a real boost by finishing what you start. Sometimes this means avoiding trying to multi-task. I know. I know. Multi-tasking is the information age’s way of dealing effectively with the present world.

But sometimes doing multiple things at the same time only gets one tangled in one’s own process. Beware. Decide what is most important and get that done as soon as possible.

3. Invest in your relationships. The time and effort it takes to help any relationship thrive is time and effort very well spent.

It’s true that some folks believe they ought not to have to invest in relationships. So, it feels like you end up doing all the relationship work yourself. That may well be.

You have to decide if you want to keep the relationship. If you do, then you need do all you can to keep it thriving, even if the other person is not willing to put forth the effort.

It took me some years to realize that some in my family were just not going to keep up their ends of our relationships. They would not correspond in return to my missives, for example. If I wanted to keep in touch, I had to be the constant initiator.

If you want to keep in contact, you may need to be the instigator.

4. Maintain your linkage to the Divine. This is a relationship too. And although the Divine, in my view, is always making effort to remain in relationship to you, it may not often feel like it.

Remember the Tao Te Ching says, “… the greatest love seems indifferent … ” because it is so quiet.

So, it is for you to put time into that relationship through the meditative arts. This investment on your part will pay big dividends.

In your connection to the Divine there flows the meaning of your life, which, I believe, is to be happy.

5. Share yourself. There is no greater earthly happiness that giving of your time and energy (and money, if you have it) to inspire or help other people. This so often gets neglected.

Perhaps it gets neglected because folks don’t realize what a boon it can be to their own lives. Or perhaps it gets neglected because people think it is somehow perverse to share themselves with others to build their own happiness foundation.

There is no perversity here, whatsoever. To share yourself with others helps your world. Making the world a better place will return to you significant benefactions.

Therefore, I think it perfectly acceptable to give and not expect any return, but give so that you feel good about yourself.

There you have five tips to help you feel happy with yourself. Use them beginning right now. Feel the difference.

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One Person Can Change The World

Every now and again you ask yourself, “Why am I here? What am I supposed to do or be?” Of course, you are not alone. Anyone who has time to think for just a moment has asked a similar question.

There are many answers, no shortage there. But I purpose the following five answers.

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1. To be in relationship. Part of your task as a human being is simply to be in relationship. Yes, of course, in relationship with other human beings. But also in relationship with all of life. You are fulfilling your purpose by developing relationships.

Develop a relationship with light and darkness, for example. You cannot know one without knowing the other. If all were light, you would have no relationship with it.

If however, you realize that you are light in visible form and that there is light in non-visible form (X-rays, gamma rays, ultraviolet light, etc.), you have the beginnings of a relationship.

2. To be substantial. Relationships, by their nature, tend to pull in different directions. That’s just the way they are. But you need to be substantial within yourself.

You need to establish who you are as different from your relationships. Know yourself. That’s what a relationship is about. You are different than the other.

At least enough different to see yourself as a separate entity from the other. Only when you can see that you have a difference can you be in relationship to another.

When you believe two of you are the same, there can be no relationship. Where does one begin and another leave off?

(You are not separate in a spiritual sense. We are all contained in the One. Some name this One the Universe, or God, or Cosmic Consciousness. But in terms of your reason for being here, you understand yourself in relation to others.)

3. To be perfect. This is difficult for most people to realize about themselves. You are perfectly human just as you are. So live your life as fully as possible. You have nothing to prove; nothing that you MUST learn. Accept you as you.

This acceptance personifies the way of the One. The One accepts all. Period. No exceptions. There is no such thing as imperfection within the One. All is perfectly as it should be.

So are you.

4. To be imperfect. Sounds like a contradiction. When you make a mistake, you need to accept yourself as perfectly capable of being imperfect. Those who cannot accept their mistakes, have a difficult time in life. You will make them; accept yourself nevertheless.

The One accepts what you call your mistakes, or sins, perfectly, without conditions. If the One accepts you just as you are, how can you not accept yourself just as you are?

This does mean you ought to go on making mistakes without thinking about your behavior. You need do your best to behave your best. Why? Because what you do or do not has consequences in your future.

5. To be you. You have heard innumerable times, there is no one just like you, never has been, never will be again. Revel in your uniqueness. Do not model yourself after anyone else.

You can never be exactly like them anyway. Be you. Being you is the greatest assistance you can render the world.

You are here to incarnate those five ideas. When you do you will be fulfilling your purpose and realizing your purpose all at once.

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One Person Can Change The World

The meaning of your life, which is to be happy, is a work in progress.

I still slip up and fall, sometimes quite heavily, on my proverbial rump. I am not the way I want to be, yet. I argue with my wife when it is not necessary. I get angry too often. I still lack the compassion for others I want to have.

How about you? Are you where you want to be yet? Have you slipped up recently, to your own embarrassment?

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We both need to keep in mind that we are works in progress. My work is not finished. Your work is not complete. Unless you have reached complete and total enlightenment, you are yet a being-in-progress.

Everyone who thinks they have arrived at the total of … something, is mistaken. Yes, some individuals, perhaps Buddha and Jesus of Nazareth, have reached complete enlightenment. But I have not and I am all too well aware of it.

You need to be aware of it as well. Yes, definitely you can find meaning almost immediately by a relationship with the Source of All That Is. When you find you are unconditionally and eternally loved and accepted just as you are, you will find meaning.

From that meaning you discover your purpose which is to experience on behalf of the Source of All That Is. You experience in rapport with everything and everyone you come across. Some of those affiliations are deep and some are shallow.

But each liaison reinforces the purpose of your life. Its pathway shows the following mile-markers: meaning – purpose – happiness; or sometimes meaning – happiness – purpose. When you reach the mile-markers of meaning and purpose, you will quickly find yourself at the “happy” milepost.

But continuing down the path, along the way, you blunder. We all do. You cannot and need not expect yourself to be perfectly enlightened in one lifetime. Rejoice in the capacity you have developed thus far. Time enough to gain more.

Time enough? You have all your future lifetimes ahead of you. In each one you will grow even closer to total enlightenment. There is no hurry.

As a matter of fact, hurry may be the enemy of enlightenment. You can possess meaning and happiness, greater than you had, beginning almost immediately. This is done through meditative contact with the Source of All That Is. But enlightenment will come to you when it will.

Trying to quicken the pace of enlightenment by force will not make it arrive any earlier. Awakening comes to you when it is ready – when it knows you are ready. Yes, it could be done in a lifetime. But the masters through ages have declared that it may take many life times to fully achieve enlightenment.

So, you are a work in progress. You will indeed be happier than you have been beginning right now as you make and keep association with the Source of All That Is. You will remain a work in progress.

In that you very much need to rejoice for you have begun. You may already understand that “begun is half done.” Beginning is the most difficult part of any journey. To develop the will and determination to start down any new road is a significant achievement in and for your life.

Be not discouraged when you stumble. The stumbles are part of the process and, therefore, part of the progress. Without the mistakes you would be lulled into the false sense that you have achieved all. When you realize you have not yet summited, you can add the continuing effort you need to reach your goal of complete enlightenment.

Welcome the challenges as you welcome all else that occurs in your life and mind on the track. They keep you hungry for the end.

Allow yourself to be a work in progress. Knowing that you are working and progressing is great reinforcement in your meaning and happiness. Progress – more – beginning today.

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