The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Claire came bounding into my office. She was just nineteen and still had the effervescence of youth. Her red curls framed her face in a cute way. She wore a modest skirt and blouse.

“What’s up, Claire?” I asked.

“I want to be happier,” she said. I had not realized she was unhappy, or at least not as happy as she wanted to be.

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She had gotten right to the point so I followed her example and got right down to cases as well. “Do you really want to be happy?”

“What a silly question, Dr. Bob. Of course I want to be happy. But why do you ask?”

“I ask, Claire, because many people protest that they want to be happy. But when it comes to doing the things that lead to happiness, they almost stop in their tracks and quit looking for happiness.”

“Why do they do that?” Claire asked.

“They do that because they discover it is far easier to deal with the devil they have, than to conquer devils they didn’t know they had,” I said. “They say they want to be happy but they are content to be stuck where they are. How about you?”

Claire thought for a few seconds. “What devils are we talking about?” she asked.

“I am speaking of the tasks of patience and effort. To be happy on a long term and deep basis you need to develop a relationship with The All There Is. That association is not difficult to execute but it does take effort and it takes patience.”

“But why do I need a relationship with The All There Is? I just want to be happy.”

I asked, “Do you want to be content or happy? Contentedness is just a decision away. You decide you are satisfied with yourself just as you are. Happiness means you want to go beyond your present self and discover your greater self – in relationship to The All There Is. Where are you, Claire?”

Again she thought for a few seconds and then said, “I want to discover my greater self. So I need, then, a bond with The All There Is.”

“You really want to be happy,” I said. “Let me lead us in a guided meditation to begin the transition to true and deep happiness.”

In that guided meditation I led us to the center of the Universe, or the heart of The All There Is. There I gave her the idea that she was accepted and loved just as she was with no conditions or strings. I had her discover for herself the golden light of unconditional love and acceptance.

In that love and acceptance is the greatest of happinesses. Why? Because there is no greater feeling than being truly and deeply accepted. These feelings of being accepted and loved are the seat of true and lasting happiness.

I brought Claire back into the present time and space. I asked her how she felt.

“I feel a deep peace and well-being. But I expected I would feel very bubbly, even giggly, when I found happiness. Right now it is more peace and well-being.”

I spoke further about how the material world cannot supply such feelings of well-being. Possessions and achievements may well be important in life. But they cannot compare to true happiness as found in an affinity with the True Love of The All There Is.

Things and relationships change or disappear with time and circumstances. Happiness as found in kinship with The All There Is, is everlasting.

“What will you do now, Claire?” I asked.

“I will learn to be constant in meditation and patience as time goes along. I really want to maintain this feeling that I have experienced with you today.”

I suggested to her that she find material on how to meditate as soon as she could, material that fit her needs. She said she would. Claire then bounded out of the office in the same manner as she had entered.

I urge you, dear reader, to begin in this moment to start developing your affinity with The All There Is. You do that through the meditative arts. Begin today to find that unconditional love that holds you. You will be happy.

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One Person Can Change The World

Every now and again you ask yourself, “Why am I here? What am I supposed to do or be?” Of course, you are not alone. Anyone who has time to think for just a moment has asked a similar question.

There are many answers, no shortage there. But I purpose the following five answers.

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1. To be in relationship. Part of your task as a human being is simply to be in relationship. Yes, of course, in relationship with other human beings. But also in relationship with all of life. You are fulfilling your purpose by developing relationships.

Develop a relationship with light and darkness, for example. You cannot know one without knowing the other. If all were light, you would have no relationship with it.

If however, you realize that you are light in visible form and that there is light in non-visible form (X-rays, gamma rays, ultraviolet light, etc.), you have the beginnings of a relationship.

2. To be substantial. Relationships, by their nature, tend to pull in different directions. That’s just the way they are. But you need to be substantial within yourself.

You need to establish who you are as different from your relationships. Know yourself. That’s what a relationship is about. You are different than the other.

At least enough different to see yourself as a separate entity from the other. Only when you can see that you have a difference can you be in relationship to another.

When you believe two of you are the same, there can be no relationship. Where does one begin and another leave off?

(You are not separate in a spiritual sense. We are all contained in the One. Some name this One the Universe, or God, or Cosmic Consciousness. But in terms of your reason for being here, you understand yourself in relation to others.)

3. To be perfect. This is difficult for most people to realize about themselves. You are perfectly human just as you are. So live your life as fully as possible. You have nothing to prove; nothing that you MUST learn. Accept you as you.

This acceptance personifies the way of the One. The One accepts all. Period. No exceptions. There is no such thing as imperfection within the One. All is perfectly as it should be.

So are you.

4. To be imperfect. Sounds like a contradiction. When you make a mistake, you need to accept yourself as perfectly capable of being imperfect. Those who cannot accept their mistakes, have a difficult time in life. You will make them; accept yourself nevertheless.

The One accepts what you call your mistakes, or sins, perfectly, without conditions. If the One accepts you just as you are, how can you not accept yourself just as you are?

This does mean you ought to go on making mistakes without thinking about your behavior. You need do your best to behave your best. Why? Because what you do or do not has consequences in your future.

5. To be you. You have heard innumerable times, there is no one just like you, never has been, never will be again. Revel in your uniqueness. Do not model yourself after anyone else.

You can never be exactly like them anyway. Be you. Being you is the greatest assistance you can render the world.

You are here to incarnate those five ideas. When you do you will be fulfilling your purpose and realizing your purpose all at once.

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One Person Can Change The World

Part of the meaning of life is to come alive.

Let’s face it – you cannot be anything or anyone if you are “less than alive.” By less than alive I mean unconscious. By alive I mean conscious. Most people think that they and those around them are for the most part conscious. Usually that is far from the truth.
What do I mean by unconscious? Not being aware of what is happening in you or around you. I remember back in the 60s when the Civil Rights movement was in full swing. I was watching television with friends and the evening news came on. The reports showed riots and injuries in several places around the country. Most of those who were watching TV with me showed no reaction, I noticed. I gently asked to make sure of observation. They all indicated that this did not affect them. Their lives were not touched by what was happening. I inwardly shook my head; I could not conceive that they were missing the “times, they were a-changin’.” Here were events coming to them in living color that were literally going to change their lives and it was almost as if they were blind.

What do I mean by conscious? To be aware of what is going on around and inside of you. Then to respond appropriately. But one needs to be “alive” to be aware. In order to be aware, one needs to focus. “Focus” is a word we hear a lot these days. Baseball players need to focus on the game and not on family matters during game time. Politicians need to focus on getting things done well for the people they represent instead of having their eyes only on the next election. Fathers need to focus on their children when they are in their care instead of being concerned more with the next beer.

How do you focus? How to make “to be” better in your life? Take time to think about what it is you are doing and being. When you kid speaks to you, are you as fully present to that children as you can be? When you fellow worker asks you a question because he or she needs you help, stop long enough to be fully present. When your spouse expresses concern over a family issue, open yourself as completely as you can to him or her. Be present by stopping, thinking, opening.

These will bring you closer to “to be” and, therefore, the meaning of life.

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