The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Congratulations! You have found meaning in life, which is to be happy. Now what do you do?

Here are five questions and five answers to this dilemma.

1. Question: How do I know that I have meaning and happiness?

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Answer: When you feel yourself as completely accepted and loved by the Universe. You are unconditionally accepted. No matter what you do or do not do, you are consented to. There is no greater happiness than knowing you are totally, entirely accepted.

You know also that everyone else can find meaning in life and happiness. Because you have experienced it yourself, you know that others can have the same. When you start sharing what you have discovered with others, and they discover it for themselves, you reinforce your own meaning and happiness.

The pleasant circle continues – round and round.

2. Question: What do I really want?

Answer: Something meaningful to do. You are the one who determines what you are to do. No one, not even God, dictates what you will do with your life. Or what you want to do with your life. You work it out for yourself.  You feel fulfilled.

Meaning is the motivation of every life. Those who feel they have no meaning are far less motivated than those who feel they have meaning. You do have meaning, meaning as consequential or as inconsequential as you make it.

I believe everyone can find something meaningful to do. Just look.

3. Question: What is the purpose of your life?

Answer: Experience. You want your life to have some genuine purpose. You find that purpose by experiencing everything positive that you possibly can. As you do this you are working on behave of The Universe. You pick out one or more special areas where can really put in the time and effort and feel the rewards.

What will you experience when you know that you have permission to experience? Nothing is holding you back. Except yourself. You now know the purpose of your life. Let life unfold before you as you experience every new minute as a fulfillment of your purpose.

4. Question: What will happen when I understand all of this?

Answer: You feel gratified. You luxuriate in your own life. This is beyond contentedness. Sort of like contentedness with the “BAM” of exhilaration. There is something to propel you out of bed in the morning.

Motivation is self-generated. You cannot wait for someone outside yourself to “make” you get out of bed in the morning. That only works for a short period until you begin to resent the other for making you get out of bed.

You need to be self-motivated through gratification. The luxury you feel in your life through gratification will be a motivating factor.

5. Question: Is it going to take me where I want to go?

Answer: Only you can know where you want to go. But wherever it is that you want to go, meaning, happiness and purpose, will see you there in style. In other words, you determine where you want to go and these three musketeers, meaning, happiness and purpose, will help you get where you are going.

Please do not be one of those folks who let others decide for them. Do not get me wrong. Sometimes we need others to direct us for a time, like we may need police officers or firefighters to help when burglary or house fire strike us.

But so many people allow themselves to fall into making government, for example, the bad guy when it comes to wanting an excuse for their own behavior. “I can’t do this because the politicians won’t let me.” Really?

Be your own boss. Make your own decisions about your own life. Don’t look for excuses – look for reasons why you can get ahead. Make your own life; you have that power. You will get where you want to go, when you decide that direction and decide you will accomplish your goal.

There you have five ideas to help you know what to do with your happiness and the meaning of life. Exercise those five beginning in this minute and continuing for the rest of your life.

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One Person Can Change The World

At the beginning, you must understand that you can change your mind. You can literally rewire your mind so that what you want is readily apparent to you.

When you realize that you can change your mind, then you can change your life.

Pete had made an appointment to meet with me a week before. He arrived in his usual disheveled manner. Pete was a very organized guy except when it came to his appearance.

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To look at him it would seem that he never had a clue. But when you got to know him, you discovered he was a sharp as a tack.

We exchanged the usual pleasantries. Then I asked, “What’s up, Pete?”

“Um, I want to feel happy, Dr. Bob. But I can’t,” he said.

As gently as I could I said, “What do you mean, you can’t?”

“The more I try, the worse it seems to get.”

If you looked at Pete’s tousled appearance you might assume that he was stating the obvious. He looked as if he could not organize a table setting, let alone organize his mind. Don’t get me wrong here. Pete was an amazing person other than the state of his clothing. The importance of dressing neatly just wasn’t important to him.

“But Pete, you are so very organized in almost everything else you do. You are a successful business man, here in the local economy. From what everyone can see, your family is healthy and happy.”

Pete said, “All that is true, Dr. Bob. But appearances can be deceiving. Yes, my business goes very well. Added two more employees just last week. Family life is well. Oldest girl graduates from highschool this coming June. But I cannot get my mind to accept these and also to let me be happy.”

There it was – the clue. Pete had just said he could not get his mind to accept and let him be happy. Something was blocking his way to happiness.

“What’s it like when you try to meditate and make connection with The All There Is?” I asked.

“I have a good connection with the Cosmic Consciousness, I think. But almost immediately after a meditation session, I begin to hear ideas in my mind. The ideas, before you ask,” he said with a smile, “say to me that I don’t deserve happiness.”

This kind of problem is much more common than you might think. Many people have great difficulty in allowing themselves to be happy.

“All right, let’s find out where you acquired this blockage to happiness. Where do you think these ideas against happiness come from?” I asked.

“I have thought about that,” said Pete. “I can remember my grandmother, who lived with us all the time I was growing up, until my junior year in high school, when she went to a nursing home, saying over and over again, no one deserves happiness. She would say you have to earn happiness.”

“And you feel that you haven’t done enough to have earned happiness?” I asked Pete.

“No. I can never seem to convince myself that I have earned it yet.”

“Well, there you have it. Your brain is literally wired with that idea your grandmother gave you. And no one in the family ever argued with her about it. Did they?”

“No, they didn’t. What are you getting at, Dr. Bob?”

“Just this. Happiness is not earned. It is a given. When you make deep and lasting connection with The Source of All There Is, you find total acceptance. In that total acceptance is meaning and happiness.

“But your grandmother taught you that you have to earn happiness. What you have, in effect, is a brain-culture that you were always fighting against. Never winning. The culture said that you have to earn happiness. You believed it. You believe it still.”

“How do I get out of that mind-culture?” Pete asked.

“First, you become aware of it. You just have. Then, second, you work over time to change the culture of your mind. You rewire, through repetition, your mind.

“How long will it take? I don’t know. I know it is different for each person. I know also that it can be done. You believe it can be done and it will be. Your mind will change.”

“How do I rewire my mind?”

“Affirmation after affirmation. Like – Happiness is a given by The Source of All There Is. Or, I deserve happiness because The Source of All There Is has given it to me. Or something else that you devise.”

“That simple, Dr. Bob?”

“Yes, that simple. But the effort may take a while. You have to commit to it.”

Pete said, “I want to be happy. I want my mind-culture to change. I’ll work at it.”

We made an appointment for six months later, with the idea that if he needed it, Pete could, of course, come visit with me at any appointed time.

Six months later Pete was visibly changed. No, he was still his disheveled self. But his face had changed. He declared he had a different mind-culture now.

If you are not as happy as you wish to be, look inside to see if there is some culture of belief or attitude that keeps you from being as happy as you wish to be. If so, change it. You can do it. Start now.

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One Person Can Change The World

Your choice making ability is inviolate. You can make a choice about how you feel about anything or anyone. No one can take that choice making ability away from you. As long as you are self-aware, you make choices.

So, you can choose to be happy.

One of the distinguishing marks of a human being, you, is the ability to make choices. We, humans, are the choice makers.

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Yes, it does appear that other animals, like household dogs and cats, do make choices. They can choose, it seems, to eat or not eat. They can choose, it seems, to do their business in inappropriate places within the house.

It even seems to some domestic cat owners that when their cat is angry with them, they choose to demonstrate that anger by defecating on good, clean carpet.

Most everything else, however, in a dog’s or cat’s life seems to be made of responses to stimuli. A dog barks, for example, when someone knocks at the door. Hard to break a dog of that primal instinctual behavior.

A household cat might well bump heads with you if it wants your attention or affection. Some cats bump heads, some don’t. What makes the difference? I don’t know, but I believe some are acting out a response pattern.

The cat bumped a head one day, got some affection in return and now has a learned response. Some would say a conditioned response.

But human beings, while having some instincts, can choose to go beyond those ancient patterns. You can choose. You have choice. Always.

How can I say always? Because you always have the choice as to how you will feel about someone or something.

Truly you don’t always get to choose between two or more options. Sometimes there is no choice but to take what is presented to you. That is a fact.

But you always have the option to decide how you are going to respond emotionally and or spiritually to what is presented to you.

To be sure, some events in life are horrific and disastrous. Your immediately response, of course, will be horror-filled and fear-inducing. These are natural responses. I would be afraid for you if you did react negatively at first in such circumstances.

As the shock wears off, however, you can choose to react within yourself as you see fit. I know you want to say to me that is it easy for me to say this whilst I sit at keyboard and type out these words. Nothing dreadful is happening to me.

You are correct. But I have been where others have been – faced with situations and people which are frightening, to say the least.

I know you change your mind. I know you can choose to respond as you wish to respond. You can turn a negative into a positive.

This is not to be Pollyannaish. I know real tragedies happen to real people. Perhaps they have even happened to you.

The point is that I have seen in my own life and in the lives of countless others, how they have turned their thinking around and sought the good and affirmative from the most devastating events and people.

You continuously and always have the possibility of choosing your way of thinking and therefore of mentally and spiritually responding to events in your life.

What do you choose? Now that you know you have the choice, what choice will you make?

I encourage you to constantly choose the positive. When you continually choose happiness, you will, of course, be the better for it.

How can you choose happiness in the middle of tragedy or loss? You make the choice. You seek and keep your connection with The All There Is. In that connection you see that you are accepted still, just as you are.

In that acceptance you find true, deep, everlasting happiness. So, no matter what is happening in your outer world, you can be happy. No, you don’t have to be jumping for joy in the midst of loss or catastrophe.

But you can have that inner peace that passes understanding which comes from happiness. Choose right now and constantly to be happy.

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One Person Can Change The World