The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Commitment is the key to so much.

You can’t lose weight if you don’t commit yourself to do so.

You will not develop a friendship if you refuse to invest time and effort into it on a regular basis.

A romance will fall short if it not committed to.

You won’t find the meaning of life, which is to be happy, unless you make a guarantee within yourself that you will search until you find what you are looking for.

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The Universe is more than prepared to give you what you want, but you have to be the initiator. Absolute and perfect acceptance is waiting for you within the Universe. But the Universe is so benign that It waits for you to begin seeking.

Beginning is good. To continue in commitment is essential to finding anything.

At the beginning of the year, January, I heard a term that was new to me. I was at the gym for Tai Chi class and the parking lot was crowded with many vehicles. The others in the class remarked as to how full the lot was. They said to each other that there were a lot of resolutioners at the gym that night.

At first I couldn’t figure out what “resolutioners” meant. Just as I was asking someone the definition, it dawned on me – these are folks who made New Year’s resolutions to work out.

Implied was the idea that the parking lot would soon be less and less full as the resolutioners broke their resolutions.

The commitment was lacking.

So what do you need to commit to if you are to find some answers? To find the meaning of life and the happiness that comes with it, you need to commit to making and keeping a significant connection, or liaison, between yourself and The Source of All There Is.

This takes time and effort. There is no substitute.

The time commitment is virtually every day for ten to thirty minutes. Of course, you can start small – just ten minutes – and grow your time. You can also start small with the effort.

In a meditative state, start light by simply concentrating on your breathing. Listen to and be conscious of your in and out breaths.

Over time you will want to explore the many types of meditation available to you. Plus the many forms of meditation – to see which is the best for you. These can involve everything from trying to keep a yellow triangle on a white background in mind, to the standing meditation of Qigong.

When you liaise with The Source of All There Is on a regular and consistent footing, you then need to further that commitment by keeping at it for the rest of your life. Meditation is not something you achieve and then never need do again. To maintain the feeling of meaning and happiness, you need to keep at it.

This keeping-at-it will yield for you the meaning of your life. Happiness is the meaning of your life. You are wired to be happy. When you make connection with The Source you power up that circuit.

When you are in contact with The Source, you will discover that you are completely, totally, unconditionally accepted. These words cannot do this concept justice. In that acceptance you will be happy for there is no higher state of being that being completely accepted.

This acceptance is Love. Love that regards you as worthy no matter what. Happiness is personified in your life.

So, make a commitment. Keep a commitment. Starting right now. Commitment works in every area of life. When you do commit, you will find the answers you are searching for in every area of your life.

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“What’s the meaning of life, Dr. Bob?” asked Chuck.

Chuck was a man in his late 30s who was recently divorced. He now saw his two children on weekends and alternating holidays. He was neatly dressed in faded blue jeans and western style shirt. He was manager of the local farm and feed store.

“To be happy, Chuck,” was my answer.

“Yeah, I knew you were going to say that,” said Chuck. He had been attending, for some time, the community I led. He was familiar with my philosophy. “But what’s that got to do with me? I mean my day-to-day life? I mean, I think I know an answer, but I am not sure.”

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“What’s your idea?” I asked Chuck. Always good to let the counselee answer if they can. Helps them to own their own ideas and statements.

“Well, I think it means that when I find happiness, I will spread that happiness by beaming my bliss into the world. And while spreading that happiness I will reinforce my own inner happiness and my outer worldly happiness.”

“I couldn’t have said it better myself,” I said.

Chuck said, “You have said it often enough, Dr. Bob. But I still have trouble wrapping my mind around the idea. At the moment, because of the divorce and the absence of my kids, I feel kind of lost.”

“You are not feeling happy, then?” I asked Chuck.

“Nope.”

“First off, to be feeling down because of the change in your family situation is normal. To be a little lost or confused is also normal. But I suspect that your personal happiness is not as connected as it needs to be.”

Chuck asked, “What do you mean by ‘connected’?”

“I mean you need a solid and steady connection with The Source Of All That Is. How often do you meditate?”

“Not regularly and not very often, Dr. Bob,” said Chuck.

“Thanks for being honest with me and with yourself, Chuck. You know what I am going to say next, don’t you? You need a regular meditative life. There is just no substitute for it. Of course, we all skip a day now and again. But that skipping has got to be the exception, not the rule. Let’s do a guided meditation right now.”

I led Chuck in the guided meditation where you dump all your cares, concerns, troubles, victories, joys, into a beautiful blue mountain lake. Watch as they sink out of sight, as if absorbed by the lake. Then just sit by that lake and absorb the beauty and peace that surrounds you.

Most everyone comes away from such a meditation refreshed and feeling happier.

“How are you feeling now, Chuck?” I asked.

He said, “It’s awesome. I feel a lift after just that short time in meditation. Now what do I do?”

“What do you feel like doing?” I asked.

“I feel good enough to text my kids and see how they are doing.”

I said, “Do you see the carry-over? You feel a noticeable bit better and you want to share yourself with your kids. There is the way it works. You feel good. You have bliss and you want to beam that bliss into the world. What better place than with your kids.”

“Come on, Dr. Bob, it can’t be that simple.”

“I get that a lot,” I said. “But it really is that simple.”

Chuck and I shook hands as he rose to leave. He was pulling his cell phone from his pocket as he walked through the door of the office.

It is that simple. Develop a real and regular connection with The Source Of All There Is. The meditative arts are the way to go with that, in my opinion.

Then, when you are feeling exuberant, to one degree or another, use that enthusiasm to beam your good feeling into the world.

Go to it.

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People look at happiness in different ways. I believe, however, that the very basis of true and lasting happiness is a connection with The Source of All There Is.

You make and keep that connection through the meditative arts. Meditation and or prayer are the foundational meditative arts. There are several different kinds of prayer as defined by religious organizations. There are scores of ways to meditate.

Choose a way to be in meditation that fits you. Use that art to make and maintain a linkage with The Source of All There Is.

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Then choose one or more of the following to help cement happiness in your day-to-day life. Happiness is based on a connection with The Source of All There Is. But that must manifest itself in every day living. Here are five ways to do that.

Way One: Do not forget to have fun. Easy enough, isn’t it?

But you might be surprised at how many people think scheduling fun is wrong-headed. They think fun needs to be totally spontaneous. I am certainly not against spontaneity.

Workaholics, for example, tend to work all the time. Then crash when not working. What they need for their own good, and the good of their relationships, is to actually schedule in some fun.

If not, they will burn out. Trust me on this, I have been there. Pushing, pushing, pushing was I in my career years. I burned out on at least three occasions because I did not have enough fun.

Don’t let that happen to you. If you have difficulty ad-libbing into recreation, schedule it.

Way Two: Find new avenues to explore using what you consider to be your strengths – express yourself. This can be anything from physical labor, like chopping wood, to expressing yourself by writing poetry.

Once again, you need to do this on a regular basis. You do not necessarily need to be scheduling this activity or activities. However, you need to find some way of making it regular.

Neglect in expressing yourself will lead to a stuffed-in feeling. I know this is difficult for the males who are reading this, perhaps more so than for the females. Men have been trained, by-in-large, to hold in expressions of themselves. Women are sometimes encouraged to express themselves quite freely.

Nothing wrong, essentially, with either of these approaches. But leaving expressions bottled up inside clogs the arteries of the spirit. We all have spirit and we all need the spirit to be free flowing.

Express yourself in some positive way on a sustainable foundation.

Way Three: If you are a people person, thrive your relationships. That is, put energy into your friendships and kinships.

We like to think that relationships just happen and that we do not need to specifically invest energy into them. Please let me explain to you that friendships and kinships do not happen by themselves.

I apologize if you already know that. When I look around at my own family and the families of many others (not all, of course) it is apparent to me that folks either don’t know this idea or don’t care about it.

In other words, relationships and kinships suffer all the time from lack of attention. To thrive any affiliation needs care. If not, they fall apart. And the longer they are apart, the harder it feels like it would be to repair and reinvigorate them.

Invest in human communities be they of three people or thirty.

Way Four: find out what your purpose is. You may already have an idea for yourself. Follow your chosen purpose. Yes, I said “your chosen purpose.” You choose who you will be. You choose what purpose you will pursue.

Now, if you don’t have any idea what purpose is yours, here’s an idea.

When you have made contact and connection with The Source of All There Is, and you have found total and unconditional acceptance there, you will be happy. The Source accepts you without qualifications of any kind. No greater happiness is there than total acceptance.

When you have felt that acceptance, then you are ready to assume a purpose in life. The Source is a Single Entity – a Singularity. The source encompasses the entire Universe. It is the entire Universe.

As a singularity, it cannot experience because it is complete within itself. We experience by being in relationship to other things and people. The Source cannot do that as It is a singularity.

So, The Source needs you to experience on Its behalf. You can be in relation to any number of things and folks. Your purpose in life can be to experience – all that is possible for you to hold.

I recommend you try to experience everything positive as the negative will usually get you into trouble.

Experience is, or can be, your purpose in life.

Way Five: accomplish something. Many people, perhaps you yourself, feel themselves driven to accomplish something. Leave a legacy.

I was that way once, so I know where you are, if you are there – driven.

Set goals. Devise mile-markers that describe your progress to those goals. Take little steps or take giant steps. Get off your duff and achieve.

As long as you don’t burn yourself out, see above, be driven all you want.

As long as you don’t neglect relationships, see above, be driven and achieve.

As long as you don’t neglect expressing yourself, see above, be driven and accomplish.

As long as you don’t neglect your great purpose, which is to experience, see above,  be impelled and attain.

There you have five possible ways to develop your happiness in your world. Choose one or more, even all five, and use them. Start now.

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One Person Can Change The World