The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Being happy is not all that difficult. Happiness on a continuing basis does take effort and patience. It is not an arduous task, however. Here are five simple rules for you to follow and you will find yourself happier.

Rule Number One: Free your emotions from hatred.

Whenever you have hatred of any kind, against anyone or anything, you diminish your life. Hatred does not really harm the other, but it does harm you.

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Your energies are consumed by it. Your attention is held fast by it.

Suppose your have hatred of another person, or persons, of another ethnic group. Often such hatred arises out of prejudice. One pre-judges another and groups all persons of that heritage as the same. They are to be hated simply because they are of that heritage.

But one has to be near these folks all the time, perhaps in the work environment. You become so consumed with avoiding them, or not speaking to them, that your work actually suffers. Your attention is so much on them and how “bad” they are, that you cannot focus on your own job. That will come to the attention of your boss for the worse.

So let hate go. Discover where your prejudice comes from and why. Dissolve it. Learn to known others for what they are now, not what you think they may be.

When you get your own focus off of your hatreds, you will be much better able to do what needs done in your work. That will come to the attention of your boss for the better.

Rule Number Two: Free your mind of worries.

You cannot change anything or anyone through worry. Besides, it has been shown that upwards of 80% of what we worry about never comes to pass.

This does not mean that you ought not prepare for possibilities and eventualities. It might be a good idea to carry health insurance, for example. But that does not mean you need to worry about becoming ill or developing an injury.

It would be a good idea to prepare for an exam rather worry about whether you are going to pass it or not. Worry will never change your grade. But preparation will.

When you thoroughly understand that worry never changed anything, you can use that now-free energy to do and be that which is really important to you. If you worry about the actions of your kids, for example, you will diminish the quality of the time spent with them.

You can teach your kids how to react and behave as you see fit. But you have to let go of the worry you may have about how they will turn out. They will make their own way, no matter what.

Be concerned, be prepared, but do not worry.

Rule Number Three: Live Simply.

As far as is possible, live as simply as you can. Luxuries are very nice to have. Fine possessions are great to own.

But, as we all know, they will not bring you happiness in themselves. As a matter of fact, many people find that once they have acquired luxuries, they are disappointed. The fun was actually in the pursuit of things, not the things in themselves.

Further, living simply means you do not crowd your life with unnecessary things. You have what need. Do you really need more than you need? Probably not.

Give up unnecessary things and you have less to take care of – to dust and polish and clean and organize. This lets your being be freer to do the things that matter the most, like making and keeping contact with the Mega Consciousness of the Universe.

Rule Number Four: Give more.

This one is so often neglected. To round your life off, to make it as pleasant as possible, you need to extend yourself to others in the world.

If not fond of people and their causes, there are animals and their causes.

If neither people nor animals meet your expectations, there is the environment which affects you and everything and everyone else.

Giving more gets you out of yourself. Nothing wrong with yourself but part of living well and happily is to give outside of yourself. This builds your rapport with the Universe.

The giving that results from your happiness makes for more happiness in the world. Which in turn reflects upon your own happiness. It all becomes a pleasant and benevolent cycle.

Rule Number Five: Expect less.

So many in the western world believe they are entitled – to everything. If it exists, many believe, they are to have it.

I do not mean you need to deprive yourself of things you can afford. I mean – do you really need to consume so much as if it is yours by right and everyone else be damned?

Of course not. There is more than enough to go around. There really is no scarcity in the west. So, enjoy what you have and do not grasp beyond what it is you really need to be comfortable.

There are five simple rules that, by following them, you will find yourself much happier. They really are simple, aren’t they?

But can you follow them to you own good? I cordially challenge you to abide by them and see what happens in your life.

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People search high and wide for meaning in their lives. Are you one of them? There is a very simple method for increasing the meaning in your life. Walk toward the truth. Every day make an advance on verity. All truth is already contained within you. Follow that path to perfection.

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When I speak of perfection I do not mean that you become perfect – never making mistake. I mean that you pursue a place within yourself, where everything makes perfect sense. Will this happen all the time as you are walking toward truth? No. But with practice and time, you will come closer and closer to the reality of the meaning of life for you.
Truth is ambiguous. By that I mean that my truth is probably not your truth. So, you have to be mindful that everyone looks at authenticity as they see it. In other words, two of us, you and me, can look at a computer video and quite possibly get two different, but valid, interpretations of the single video. You begin with your own perspective on all things. I begin with my own vision of the way things are.

Each of us, then, must work for his or her own truth that comes through our unique perspectives. This does not make you or me better than someone else. When you “see” a truth that is real to you, as you walk the path of veracity, you may claim it for yourself. But because you have seen a truth that is different from someone else, does not make your rank in the universe better than someone else’s. You need to understand that everyone’s truth may a little or a lot different that yours.

Besides, truth changes. Yipes. If truth changes, what’s the sense of chasing after it? Hold on there. Truth changes because you change. You do not have the same mind now that you had ten years ago. Everyone’s perspective changes according to how one interprets the events that occur in one’s life.

Take your emotional strength as an example. As a child you may have felt yourself powerless. Everyone was bigger and stronger and knew more than you. You lived with that powerlessness as your truth. But when you become an adult, you realized that you have your own strengths.  You may have changed your outlook on yourself. As an adult you have more physical strength than when you were a child. Not everyone is bigger. You know more about some subjects because of your study and experiences, than those of your immediate circle of friends and family.

Truth does change – because of your present day view. Your present day view may be quite different than it was last month.
But to walk towards the truth means you see what is best for you right now. Be prepared to modify your views, but constantly amble down the path of veracity. You will find meaning for your life even if you do nothing more than what helps you discover the validity of your life from your own point of view. From your own perception of validity you grow closer and close to Truth. As you grow closer to Truth, you will learn more of the meaning of you life. It almost just comes to you. You will gain a clearer and clearer vision of who you are. As you discover who you are, you will want to be the best version of yourself that you can. That leads, then, to continued strolling down the path of truth.

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Shirley came through the door of my office. It was early on in my career as a life coach (clergy). This was going to be one of first encounters with someone who was looking for happiness.

Shirley was in her late 30s at the time. Pleasantly dressed in a warm outfit as it was winter. She did not look or act depressed or anxious. I wondered what might be her concern. Nothing was obvious. We talked good-naturedly for a few minutes about the life coaching association (church) I headed. But no point to her visit was presenting itself. I finally needed to ask how I might be of help to her.

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“Dr. Bob, I think I am happy. But … I am not sure I am happy enough.”

Now, there was a statement I did not see coming. Even the idea itself was new to me. I mean happy, but not happy enough. Most people, in my experience to that point in my career, were looking for happiness. They had no concerns about being happy enough. All I could do was sit and listen and try to maintain an intelligent look upon my face.

Shirley asked, “Do you know what I mean?” I told her, frankly, that I did not. She seemed to accept this answer as routine. “Well, it’s like I seem to sense that there can be more. Like I am missing something that is just out of reach because I can’t see it. Does that make sense?”

I assured her that feeling this way was normal for many people. They needed something more in their lives but were not sure what it was or where to find it. I knew this insight of mine was fine and true as far as it went. I was not sure within myself if I wasn’t slipping into water that was going to be over my head. But I ventured forth as inexperienced therapists might do when confronted with a never before discussed topic.

“What brings you the most happiness?” I asked. A shot in the dark.

“When I am giving to others and not expecting something in return,” she replied.

A light bulb of learning lit up in my head. “You are talking about love and compassion?” I asked.

“Those are the words,” she blurted. Then I could see the wheels turning in her head. “When I act in a loving way, being compassionate toward others, I feel the best about myself.”

“I think you just sighted those ‘out-of-reach’ things you mentioned. It seems to be human nature,” I said, “that when we give without expecting return, we are at our happiest. When we calculate what we might receive in return for a generous act, the process of happiness is somehow short-circuited within us. When we give of ourselves out of duty, instead of compassion, the experience is somehow empty.”

“So, by being loving and compassionate in every circumstance possible, I will achieve greater happiness?” she asked.

I answered in as wise a manner as I could, “I believe you have answered your own question very well.” (Such a newbie was I.)

Shirley left feeling as she had gained something. As I returned to my desk after seeing her to the office door, I reflected on what I had learned. 1. Sometimes the answer is within the question. 2. There may be different degrees of happiness. 3. Perhaps the greatest happiness we can find lies simply yet profoundly in our nature to be loving and compassionate. 4. It would seem that all persons in their right minds cherish love and compassion in others and in themselves above all else. 5. Following that insight then, your greatest happiness lies in love and compassion.

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