He was a little angry. I had something he wanted but couldn’t figure out how to get.

I smiled and said, “I’ve got connections.”

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Rico was in his mid-thirties. Though Rico is not his real name, he is Hispanic American. He had a good job and a very nice family. He and his family had been attending our caring community for over three years.

Rico said, “I want those same connections.” He spoke those words as if I were keeping something from him.

“Are you willing to work at them? They don’t come easy, although they are cheap.”

“You know I can work hard.”

“O.K. Here are the three of them: 1. A Connection with The Source of All There Is. 2. A connection with yourself. 3. A connection with others.”

He wasn’t expecting those. But then he leaned forward in his chair just a little, indicating his eagerness.

First, I began to explain, comes a connection with The Source of All There Is. Some call this Source God, but I often find that there is too much harmful baggage to unpack and discard with this word “God.” So I use a less familiar term – The Source of All There Is.

You get in touch with this Source through meditation or prayer. I stick closer to meditation as prayer also can have negative connotations for many folks. I told Rico he needed to develop a meditative life using one of the many forms of meditation.

What would that do for him? This connection would help him find the meaning of his life, which, I believe, is to be happy. You find happiness when you come to understand that The Source accepts you just as you are. Full acceptance and acceptance of your acceptance equals happiness.

You choose to be happy knowing you are accepted. Happiness here is defined as an excellent sense of well-being. Joy, on the other hand, is an emotion that erupts from external events. Happiness is a choice to feel a sense of well-being no matter what is happening in your external world.

This sense of well-being is developed and perpetuated through a connection with The Source of All There Is.

But you do not finished there. You go on to accept yourself just as you are. Yes, we can all improve. But we start just where we are right now. Rich or poor or in between; tall, short or medium; thin or heavy or in between; educated or not; family or single; all these, any of these is just the way you are right now. Accept that.

In other words, make a genuine affirming connection with yourself. Be aware of who you really are. As you are totally and unconditionally accepted by The Source, there is no need to look at yourself as anything else. No matter what you have done or not done, been or not been, said or not said, you affirm yourself just as you are.

Many people find themselves separated from themselves because they feel they are not as perfect as they are supposed to be. Nonsense. You are perfect just the way you are. Yes, improvements may need to be made. But as you are, right now, you are perfectly human.

These two: acceptance from The Source and affirmation of self, lead to a connection with others. Why? You need to express your acceptance and affirmation in the world around you as you interact with others.

Now that you know you are accepted by The Source and you have affirmed yourself, you can see that all others are in the same boat as you whether they realize it or not.

They need to know they are accepted by The Source. They need to know they can affirm themselves just as they are. One of the ways they can discover these is through your actions and words.

How? When you show compassion for others, you have demonstrated acceptance and affirmation. How many people need affirmation and acceptance? That’s right – everyone. You can be one of the instruments to help others. You share your happiness.

When you share it you reinforce happiness within yourself. You reinforce your connection to The Source. You reinforce your self-connection. You reinforce your connection with others as they respond positiviely to your kindness and compassion.

Rico said, “I can do that. I’ll start with the next person I meet.” We parted then but as I saw Rico frequently, he did seem much happier than before we talked together.

You can make these three connections as well. Start now.

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So, we were meeting in committee. Our organization was in a slight financial crisis. Every year about that time, this finance committee met to examine the budget and our cash flow. Almost every year it was the same old story. We were slightly short of our budget needs and committee members were wringing their hands. They spouted a tale of woe and how there was never enough money. We certainly couldn’t ask our membership as a whole to contribute more. There was just not enough.

They bought into the idea that there is not enough to go around. That we would never complete our budget because people just didn’t have any more to give. When one thinks scarcity, that is exactly what one finds. Too many people are taught that there is not enough to go around. So you better get yours while the getting is good. Think lack and lack you shall have.

But now it was my turn to speak to the situation. I said, “We are dealing with an Unlimited Source. That Source is given many, many names. But no matter what you call It, It is still Boundless. But when anyone declares that there is poverty, poverty is the result. When a group (or an individual) declares abundance, there is bounty. This is because we are dealing with an Immeasurable Source.”

The funny thing is, I had to relate this every year to this very same committee. From a year ago, they had seemingly forgotten my words. When I had finished delivering my abundance speech, they invariably gave me incredulous looks. They did not believe it. What is more, when what I said proved out to be true in the process, they still forgot. It was as if they sometimes displayed group dementedness in reverse. That is, their long term memory was lacking while their short term memory was intact.

So, the committee reluctantly vowed they would try to raise the money. But they doubted that it could be done. However, it was accomplished year after year when they gave just the barest hint that “my” abundance theory might be correct.

As the chief fund raiser for the organization, it was my responsibility to see that funds got raised. The finance committee gave their reluctant approval of my efforts to raise money from an Unlimited Source. Which simply meant I could use the committee’s name on correspondence asking for more money. That way the committee members did not have to place themselves on the front line. If we raised the necessary money, they could claim credit. If we did not, they could say they were just going along with me out of good manners.

I said this applies to individuals as well as organizations. When a person believes and, therefore, lives like there is not enough to go around, what happens? They see lack everywhere and in everything. As a matter of fact, by their attitude they repel abundance. Abundance, as it were, cannot harmonize with these feelings of restricted flow. It is as if the harmonization that is intended by The Source bounces off the adverse vibrations of scarcity. As happens when two waves are headed toward each other as in a swimming pool. The two waves crashed into each other and rapidly disperse. Whereas two waves going in the same direction meet to travel together. The waves bring themselves into accord, so to speak.

The committee was always “cheerily surprised” to have met the budget and then some. When I depended upon the Illimitable Resource that is The Universe, there was always enough money. I convinced enough people in the organization that there was abundance. They found it in their hearts to respond as if there was more-than-enough.

You, as an individual, will be pleasantly surprised as well when you depend upon The Originator of The Universe. In that Source you will find everything you need. That Source is Boundless.

I invite you to claim your Free Instant Access to some of Dr. Bob’s Resources and a monthly newsletter: “The Force-Source-Resource.” You will find more about yourself and the meaning of your life. Just Click Here. Remember, one bit of information can give save you a lifetime of frustration.

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So, we were meeting in committee. Our organization was in a slight financial crisis. Every year about that time, this finance committee met to examine the budget and our cash flow. Almost every year it was the same old story. We were slightly short of our budget needs and committee members were wringing their hands. They spouted a tale of woe and how there was never enough money. We certainly couldn’t ask our membership as a whole to contribute more. There was just not enough.

They bought into the idea that there is not enough to go around. That we would never complete our budget because people just didn’t have any more to give. When one thinks scarcity, that is exactly what one finds. Too many people are taught that there is not enough to go around. So you better get yours while the getting is good. Think lack and lack you shall have.

But now it was my turn to speak to the situation. I said, “We are dealing with an Unlimited Source. That Source is given many, many names. But no matter what you call It, It is still Boundless. But when anyone declares that there is poverty, poverty is the result. When a group (or an individual) declares abundance, there is bounty. This is because we are dealing with an Immeasurable Source.”

The funny thing is, I had to relate this every year to this very same committee. From a year ago, they had seemingly forgotten my words. When I had finished delivering my abundance speech, they invariably gave me incredulous looks. They did not believe it. What is more, when what I said proved out to be true in the process, they still forgot. It was as if they sometimes displayed group dementedness in reverse. That is, their long term memory was lacking while their short term memory was intact.

So, the committee reluctantly vowed they would try to raise the money. But they doubted that it could be done. However, it was accomplished year after year when they gave just the barest hint that “my” abundance theory might be correct.

As the chief fund raiser for the organization, it was my responsibility to see that funds got raised. The finance committee gave their reluctant approval of my efforts to raise money from an Unlimited Source. Which simply meant I could use the committee’s name on correspondence asking for more money. That way the committee members did not have to place themselves on the front line. If we raised the necessary money, they could claim credit. If we did not, they could say they were just going along with me out of good manners.

I said this applies to individuals as well as organizations. When a person believes and, therefore, lives like there is not enough to go around, what happens? They see lack everywhere and in everything. As a matter of fact, by their attitude they repel abundance. Abundance, as it were, cannot harmonize with these feelings of restricted flow. It is as if the harmonization that is intended by The Source bounces off the adverse vibrations of scarcity. As happens when two waves are headed toward each other as in a swimming pool. The two waves crashed into each other and rapidly disperse. Whereas two waves going in the same direction meet to travel together. The waves bring themselves into accord, so to speak.

The committee was always “cheerily surprised” to have met the budget and then some. When I depended upon the Illimitable Resource that is The Universe, there was always enough money. I convinced enough people in the organization that there was abundance. They found it in their hearts to respond as if there was more-than-enough.

You, as an individual, will be pleasantly surprised as well when you depend upon The Originator of The Universe. In that Source you will find everything you need. That Source is Boundless.

I invite you to claim your Free Instant Access to some of Dr. Bob’s Resources and a monthly newsletter: “The Force-Source-Resource.” You will find more about yourself and the meaning of your life. Just Click Here. Remember, one bit of information can give save you a lifetime of frustration.