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Sitting in a doctor’s office, waiting for your appointment, can sometimes be very interesting. Of course, you can people-watch as long as you are not too obvious about it. But the conversations that arise are often the most interesting. All kinds of subjects come up and you get to hear what others are thinking, their prejudices, their fantasies, etc.

Being in the “happiness business,” the conversations that attract most of my attention are the ones about, you guessed it, happiness. Often the word “happiness” is not even used. But that’s what the conversation is about, really.

So and so did such and such and now I am broke. He lost every spare nickel we had playing poker with his buddies. Now we are broke. Did you hear that name and name is breaking up with her husband?  I feel and can’t get up anymore. This illness is making me so depressed. I wish there was a pill to simply cure it. I fell so useless when he leaves, even though he is 35 and ought to be on his own.

Now, to be sure, some happenings are truly painful. Divorce, illness, debt are some of those. But when people pin their happiness on these exterior events, they have misplaced their joy.

So many folks rely on external situations to define their happiness. Surely negative events can have a negative effect on us. But happiness does not come from the outside. When we give over control of our happiness to people and events outside ourselves, we miss the point of living free.

Who is it that controls your mind and spirit? Please, I humbly ask you to think well before you answer that question. You might be surprised at the percentage of people who think others have control of their spirits and minds. Sometimes religion even encourages people to think that someone evil has command.

But it is you who has power over your own thinking and being. Yes, others may well have some control over your finances, how you are treated in a health crisis, how you are cared for in a relationship, and so on. No one but you, however, has control over your thoughts.

You have got to take that responsibility yourself. The minute you give over control of your spirit to another, you have given up the right to your own happiness. Don’t do that. Claim your right to be happy, no matter what is happening outside of your thoughts and spirit.

Your life and your happiness are in your own hands. Work on your happiness and your life will follow. How do you gain control of your happiness? You talk to yourself; that’s one way. The internal conversation that you carry on with yourself determines how you see the world. If your internal conversation is negative, your world will be negative. When your internal conversation is positive, you internal life will be positive. Which means happy.

How do you get in on the interior chat? You listen. Yes, it’s that simple. Stop and listen. What are you saying to yourself? Damaging self-talk is, obviously, self-destructive. Favorable self talk is, obviously, self-constructive. Who tells you what to say to you? You do. You have your own happiness in your own hands.

Start right now, to monitor your self-talk. Take just 30 seconds when you finishing watching this video or reading the text, and listen to what you are saying about yourself. Be sure to complete that 30 second visit with yourself by saying something positive about you.

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The meaning of life has to do with you and others. Last post we explored what it meant to take care of you. How when the mask drops from the airplane ceiling, parents are instructed to put the masks on first. They help their children into the masks. If you haven’t saved yourself, in the case of airplanes, you cannot help your child.

So it is self first. But there are all these other people in the world. What to do? Not to mention all the additional flora and fauna in the world. What about them too?

You reinforce who you are by tending to these others. Actually, I believe, that all others are part of us. We are One. In the great One we all belong. So, when you do something for these others, you have done something for yourself. Imagine that. You cannot get away from helping yourself, even when helping others.

Whatever you do to improve the lot of the others who exist with you in the Universe you call home, you do for the benefit of . . . guess who? YOU!

I am not asking you to give beyond your means here. I do not suggestion that you make yourself poor either financially or spiritually or physically. I only request that you believe beyond your present means. Believe that what you do for others has a positive outcome for everyone.

This came home to me on a TV news report. There was a sound bite concerning the health care debate. The woman said something like this, “I’ve got my own insurance. Let them get their own insurance too.” There was no sharing of self in that woman’s audio attitude or visible demeanor. (Many others, of course, are unable to “get” health insurance.) That’s when life gets blockaded within the person’s own spirit.

But happiness cannot contain itself. When you have found true happiness, by being in connection with The Source of All That Is, your happiness simply wants to bubble out. Those bubbles float the air currents like soap balls blown from a child’s bubble wand. They burst on whomever or whatever they touch. (Thus spreading a little soap on everything.)

I guarantee that when you find true happiness based on contact through meditation with The Source, you will want to do this too. But it won’t be a forced thing. You won’t feel as if you have to do this. You will just naturally want to do this. And it will feel effortless. Soon, you won’t even have to think twice about it. You’ll be floating happiness over everyone and everything you encounter.

And you will be the better for it. And that is the meaning of life – spreading happiness because you are happy.

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