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The Meaning of Life, To Be Happy, and the Future Is in Your Consciousness Now 88

Tuesday, March 23rd, 2010

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Shawna sort of bounced through the door to my office. Her blonde curls flouncing after her. She was maybe 27 or 28 at the time. Big smile on her facing while wearing a summer type dress of bright colors.

I thought to myself, she doesn’t present, that is, give off the vibe of having a problem. She settled herself primly in the interview chair. She chatted about the weather and how nice spring was moving along.

Then she came to her point. “Dr. Bob, I can’t figure out tomorrow. I know that sounds a bit strange. I think I’ve got this thing of living in the moment. But what if I want tomorrow to be different from today? How do I live in this moment and still make the next as I want it to be?”

I happen to have a ready answer for her. “You live now as if it will be your tomorrow. For your future is in your consciousness now. What you think and do, as you live in this moment, sets you up for what your tomorrow will be. Even sets you up for the next moment of your life.”

I had her think of the last time she was crying, either for sorrow or for joy. I showed that she just didn’t shut off the tears. They sort of had to run their course. Each moment one is in the act of crying, a certain emotional state is playing itself out. That emotional state cannot usually be turned off like a faucet. It takes time to subside.

Or like a runner who has just finished his race. He is gasping for breath and it takes time for his breathing to recover to normal.

But even more so in excited feelings. For in our consciousness tomorrow already exists. Now there is a full quantum insight to help explain this, but it was not necessary for Shawna. She wanted an answer to take with her within a few minutes, as most of us do. Suffice it to say that I showed that life is one continuous flow, though we can only really be in this moment. But whatever is happening in the flow of this moment, most often gets carried into the next.

So, be now what you want to be tomorrow. If you are down in this moment, resolve to change that by willing yourself, in this moment to be upbeat. If you are inattentive right now, decide right now to pay better attention and do so in this moment. If you are tired of mourning (feeling sad over a death) in this moment, determine to put away mourning right now. This kind of thing you do in each moment until your next moment, or your tomorrow, is the way you want it to be.

Shawna seemed to get the idea, especially after she suggested that is why kids can’t simply turn of the tears. They have worked themselves into a state and need time to change states.

I believe it is easy to make the connection between your consciousness and the future and being happy and knowing the meaning of your life. If you are not happy in this moment, you need to consciously do the things that will bring you happiness beginning now and continuing into the future. The future is already contained within your consciousness. You need only apply what you are aware of now with what you want to be aware in the next moment, or tomorrow.

And I invite you to know a lot more about your and your happiness. Sign up for Free Instant Access to some of my Force-Source-Resources. Pick out the one that says Two Life Phrases for Self Development – “I Am My True Self” and “I Am Conscious” or any or all of the other freebies. Remember, one bit of information can give you a lifetime of actualization. Just click here and you’ll be on your way. These resources will change your life.

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The Meaning of Life, To Be Happy, and the Party We had Hoped For Didn’t Happen But We Can Still Dance 86

Saturday, March 20th, 2010

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In the annals of the meaning of life and being happy, here’s one for the book of records. This person, whom I know well, but cannot name because she is too close to me, had life all planned out. Graduate college, marry, have two kids, boy and girl, buy a nice piece of property with an adequate house. Using that nice property, she would have family get-togethers on a regular basis. Everyone would grow comfortable and older together. In other words, following her plan, she would be happy and have the meaning of life all sown up.

Well, it didn’t quite work that way. She lost two grandmothers in the same weekend. Lost the remaining grandfather just a few years later. Lost one of her siblings to a car accident. Lost the other sibling to an estranged relationship that last ten years. Started a business and was doing well until the Great Recession hit. In short, all her plans did not work out. She was planning a great life-party, but even the DJ did not show up.

Now what was she going to do? Some things worked out. Her two children are fine citizens. The piece of land she and her husband own is still there and appreciating in value. There are investments that will grow again. But the family ties and lines of communication she had hoped for were broken through one disaster after another.

She can stand around at a dud party. Or she can dance anyway. Those are basically the two choices she has. The jury is still out on the verdict. Maybe sometime in the future I can let you know how things turned out.

You have the same two choices. Your life may not be the party so expected it to be, so far anyway. You thought that the party itself was going to give your life meaning. The party itself was going to be your cause for happiness. But the party went poop. Now what?

You can stand around and mope in various ways. Like lashing out at loved ones because things aren’t going well. Taking up bad habits like drinking or running around. You can just give up on life and its meaning and your happiness.

Or you can find a way to dance. While we are still in this life, we can dance. This needs a change of mind, however. You have got to will yourself, at least at first, to dance. I know, I know, you don’t want to get out of that figurative chair and start to move to imaginary music. You have to will yourself to your feet, real or figurative. You have to look for a rhythm within yourself that you can keep time with your feet as you move. You may even have to imagine a partner with whom to dance at this stage in your life.

In other words, you have to dance to your own rhythms and themes. But in that attempt to dance, you will find something you didn’t know you had. A reservoir of happiness. When you will to dance, you will necessarily tap into this reservoir of happiness and meaning. This reservoir is as big as the Universe, for it is the Universe. Happiness does not depend on the outward circumstances of life. Happiness and the meaning of life are what you say it is for you. Once you have discovered your everlasting connection to the Divine Meaning of Life, and constantly tap into it, draw from its reserves, you can dance. “I am the Lord of the Dance, said he, and I’ll meet you there in there, wherever you may be, I’ll meet you there in the dance, said he.”

These two basic choices are yours, always. One: stand around and mope and curse the day you were born. Two: find the will you already possess to dance up the meaning of life, which is to be happy.

Life may not have turned out to be the party your expected, but while you are alive, you can dance anyway.

And I invite you to know a lot more about you and your happiness. Sign up for Free Instant Access to some of my Force-Source-Resources. Pick out the one that says Two Life Phrases for Self Development – “I Am My True Self” and “I Am Conscious” or any or all of the other freebies. Remember, one bit of information can give you a lifetime of actualization. Just click here and you’ll be on your way. These resources will change your life.

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The Meaning of Life, To Be Happy, and Never Let Your Mind Set Into a Mold

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

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Terra came through the door of my office with a confused look on her face. She was 37 with three kids and a husband. Dressed casually and comfortably. Brunette.  About 5′ 5″.

I said, “Please, have a seat.” When she had done so, I continued, “You look confused.”

“I am, Dr. Bob. It doesn’t seem like I can shift, mentally, into second gear or more, any more.” She said her patterns of living and reacting were all the same. Mostly stuff she learned as she was growing up. Her kids, she said, who were teens, often complained about how stuck she seemed to be. No new ideas, no trying anything new, not even cooking anything new and different.

So, I launched into the usual pattern, myself, of seeing if she had any trauma that might associate itself with mental inflexibility. We could discover none. I then asked how her religious life was going.

“Oh, I do all the right things, say all the right prayers, attend church almost every Sunday. Feel guilty when I don’t attend. Worry about my husband and kids going to hell when they die.”

“Do you worry about going to hell?” I asked.

“No, no, I’ve got that all taken care of. I was saved when I was ten. Been sure of heaven ever since.”

“I think you have what I call a ‘molded mind’.” Of course, that struck her as strange and humorous at the same time. She wanted to know what I meant. I told her I thought her mind had been poured into a mold like is used for gelatin. Terra had allowed her mind to set in the pattern and shape of that mold. And that’s all she had. Her ideas had hardened into dogmas. Dogmas only last a short time, especially in this age when the Internet and other factors more than doubles knowledge every six months or less. Basically, she followed her religion so closely that she had made her mind ossify, harden. She seemed so inflexible in mental activity because she could not see the dogmatic state she occupied. “It is God’s way, or the highway,” is the fashion in which some put it. Sometimes they are trying to be funny; sometimes they are declaring a doctrine. And one has to be very careful with doctrines and dogmas. While not being watched carefully, they often turn into lies made of concrete molded into certain templates. Into these templates everything else must fit: from family life to the use of recipes.

Startled, Terra blurted, “How can I become un-ossified?”
“You’ve got to find the meaning of your life. The meaning of your life is to be happy. Happiness never allows the status quo to remain in terms of our relationship to the world. You’ve got to break the pattern and the mold. You do that by making contact with God.”

“But I pray every day,” she protested. “Are they the same prayers?” I asked. She went pale. “Yes, they are exactly the same and have been for as long as I can remember.”

“Terra, you need new prayers. Better yet, you need spontaneous prayers. You need to pray as if everything is new everyday, because it is. When you meet God in your prayers, you will see that God’s love is ever the same, but God’s Universe is ever changing.”

“How do I do that?” she asked.

“Simply by sitting quietly and letting your thoughts flow. When the time comes in your quiet time, direct your thoughts to the specific concerns you have at that moment. Eventually, after some weeks or months of practice, you’ll be free of the tyranny of ossification. You’ll be mentally limber and supple again. It is frightening at first. But it becomes less so as you free yourself, bit by bit, from religious habits that no longer serve.”

Never let your mind and/or spirit settle into the pattern of some worn-out mold, like ancient gelatin. The meaning of life is to be happy, part of which is finding life new every new day.

And I invite you to know a lot more about you as a free mind and spirit. Sign up for Free Instant Access to some of my Force-Source-Resources. Pick out the one that says Two Life Phrases for Self Development – “I Am My True Self” and “I Am Conscious” or any or all of the other freebies. Remember, one bit of information can give you a lifetime of actualization. Just click here and you’ll be on your way. These resources will change your life.

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