The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Commitment is the key to so much.

You can’t lose weight if you don’t commit yourself to do so.

You will not develop a friendship if you refuse to invest time and effort into it on a regular basis.

A romance will fall short if it not committed to.

You won’t find the meaning of life, which is to be happy, unless you make a guarantee within yourself that you will search until you find what you are looking for.

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The Universe is more than prepared to give you what you want, but you have to be the initiator. Absolute and perfect acceptance is waiting for you within the Universe. But the Universe is so benign that It waits for you to begin seeking.

Beginning is good. To continue in commitment is essential to finding anything.

At the beginning of the year, January, I heard a term that was new to me. I was at the gym for Tai Chi class and the parking lot was crowded with many vehicles. The others in the class remarked as to how full the lot was. They said to each other that there were a lot of resolutioners at the gym that night.

At first I couldn’t figure out what “resolutioners” meant. Just as I was asking someone the definition, it dawned on me – these are folks who made New Year’s resolutions to work out.

Implied was the idea that the parking lot would soon be less and less full as the resolutioners broke their resolutions.

The commitment was lacking.

So what do you need to commit to if you are to find some answers? To find the meaning of life and the happiness that comes with it, you need to commit to making and keeping a significant connection, or liaison, between yourself and The Source of All There Is.

This takes time and effort. There is no substitute.

The time commitment is virtually every day for ten to thirty minutes. Of course, you can start small – just ten minutes – and grow your time. You can also start small with the effort.

In a meditative state, start light by simply concentrating on your breathing. Listen to and be conscious of your in and out breaths.

Over time you will want to explore the many types of meditation available to you. Plus the many forms of meditation – to see which is the best for you. These can involve everything from trying to keep a yellow triangle on a white background in mind, to the standing meditation of Qigong.

When you liaise with The Source of All There Is on a regular and consistent footing, you then need to further that commitment by keeping at it for the rest of your life. Meditation is not something you achieve and then never need do again. To maintain the feeling of meaning and happiness, you need to keep at it.

This keeping-at-it will yield for you the meaning of your life. Happiness is the meaning of your life. You are wired to be happy. When you make connection with The Source you power up that circuit.

When you are in contact with The Source, you will discover that you are completely, totally, unconditionally accepted. These words cannot do this concept justice. In that acceptance you will be happy for there is no higher state of being that being completely accepted.

This acceptance is Love. Love that regards you as worthy no matter what. Happiness is personified in your life.

So, make a commitment. Keep a commitment. Starting right now. Commitment works in every area of life. When you do commit, you will find the answers you are searching for in every area of your life.

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“What’s the meaning of life, Dr. Bob?” asked Chuck.

Chuck was a man in his late 30s who was recently divorced. He now saw his two children on weekends and alternating holidays. He was neatly dressed in faded blue jeans and western style shirt. He was manager of the local farm and feed store.

“To be happy, Chuck,” was my answer.

“Yeah, I knew you were going to say that,” said Chuck. He had been attending, for some time, the community I led. He was familiar with my philosophy. “But what’s that got to do with me? I mean my day-to-day life? I mean, I think I know an answer, but I am not sure.”

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“What’s your idea?” I asked Chuck. Always good to let the counselee answer if they can. Helps them to own their own ideas and statements.

“Well, I think it means that when I find happiness, I will spread that happiness by beaming my bliss into the world. And while spreading that happiness I will reinforce my own inner happiness and my outer worldly happiness.”

“I couldn’t have said it better myself,” I said.

Chuck said, “You have said it often enough, Dr. Bob. But I still have trouble wrapping my mind around the idea. At the moment, because of the divorce and the absence of my kids, I feel kind of lost.”

“You are not feeling happy, then?” I asked Chuck.

“Nope.”

“First off, to be feeling down because of the change in your family situation is normal. To be a little lost or confused is also normal. But I suspect that your personal happiness is not as connected as it needs to be.”

Chuck asked, “What do you mean by ‘connected’?”

“I mean you need a solid and steady connection with The Source Of All That Is. How often do you meditate?”

“Not regularly and not very often, Dr. Bob,” said Chuck.

“Thanks for being honest with me and with yourself, Chuck. You know what I am going to say next, don’t you? You need a regular meditative life. There is just no substitute for it. Of course, we all skip a day now and again. But that skipping has got to be the exception, not the rule. Let’s do a guided meditation right now.”

I led Chuck in the guided meditation where you dump all your cares, concerns, troubles, victories, joys, into a beautiful blue mountain lake. Watch as they sink out of sight, as if absorbed by the lake. Then just sit by that lake and absorb the beauty and peace that surrounds you.

Most everyone comes away from such a meditation refreshed and feeling happier.

“How are you feeling now, Chuck?” I asked.

He said, “It’s awesome. I feel a lift after just that short time in meditation. Now what do I do?”

“What do you feel like doing?” I asked.

“I feel good enough to text my kids and see how they are doing.”

I said, “Do you see the carry-over? You feel a noticeable bit better and you want to share yourself with your kids. There is the way it works. You feel good. You have bliss and you want to beam that bliss into the world. What better place than with your kids.”

“Come on, Dr. Bob, it can’t be that simple.”

“I get that a lot,” I said. “But it really is that simple.”

Chuck and I shook hands as he rose to leave. He was pulling his cell phone from his pocket as he walked through the door of the office.

It is that simple. Develop a real and regular connection with The Source Of All There Is. The meditative arts are the way to go with that, in my opinion.

Then, when you are feeling exuberant, to one degree or another, use that enthusiasm to beam your good feeling into the world.

Go to it.

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I am not a Zen master, nor pretend to be. However, Zen seems to be part of my life and, I bet, it is part of your life. Perhaps we can define Zen as a way of seeing that is beyond the ordinary.

That said, I feel there are three stages that will fulfill your purpose in life. I believe that purpose is to experience as much positive stuff as possible. These three stages, when recognized and developed, propel you forward toward fulfilling your purpose.

Here they are:

Stage One: Affirm Yourself – You are here and now to fulfill your karma. The responses that you have accumulated over lifetimes need to be fulfilled in this lifetime. In other words, you have a purpose.

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You fulfill that purpose by finding happiness which is the result of your search for meaning. Meaning is found in a profound and wonderful relationship with the Source of All There Is.

In that relationship you discover that you are affirmed fully, completely, unconditionally by the Source of All There Is.

You take that affirmation and affirm yourself. Affirming yourself means to unconditionally accept yourself as you are, right now. It does not mean that there is no room for improvement. It means you all right just as you are.

Stage Two: Mature Yourself – Reorient yourself to benefit other sentient beings. The expression of your own happiness is to let that joy overflow you and let it well over onto all others.

This takes a change of thinking. We are all naturally oriented to ourselves. This is a survival mechanism. If we did not desire food and safety, etc., we would not survive.

But, of course, this can be carried too far. We cannot only be for ourselves. When one is only for himself or herself, others can be cut off from what they need.

You need to turn in the direction where others benefit from your life as well your benefitting from your life. Why? It fulfills your karma and creates more positive karma. In other words, by sharing your happiness you reinforce it.

But to do this you need an attitude of sharing. In others words, you want a mature attitude – one that goes beyond, but does not forget, the self.

Karma may be another way of saying experience. By doing all you can to experience all the positive you can, you are fulfilling past karma and building new and favorable karma.

Stage Three: Dissolve Yourself. Here is the ultimate mature attitude. You let go of everything. You detach. You seek complete freedom from self. In some ways of thinking this is called achieving Buddha-hood.

When you wish complete freedom, complete happiness, you let go. You detach from possessions, achievements, relationships, even your own life.

This does not mean that you can have no relationships. It means that you need to realize that all relationships end in this life. It does not mean that you can have no possessions. It does mean that possessions are vanishing even as we speak.

It does not mean that you ought not take care of the body in which you now reside. Your present body is also your responsibility and you need to see to its well-being. But you must also always carry the notion that you will one day lay down this earthly shell and walk as spirit through the corridors of the Universe.

There you have a Zen View of Life in Three Stages:
    1. Affirm Yourself.
    2. Mature Yourself.
    3. Dissolve Yourself.
What are you doing about these three right now? Do something about them, now.

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One Person Can Change The World