Shirley was in her late 30s at the time. Pleasantly dressed in a warm outfit as it was winter. She did not look or act depressed or anxious. I wondered what might be her concern. Nothing was obvious. We talked good-naturedly for a few minutes about the life coaching association (church) I headed. But no point to her visit was presenting itself. I finally needed to ask how I might be of help to her.

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“Dr. Bob, I think I am happy. But … I am not sure I am happy enough.”

Now, there was a statement I did not see coming. Even the idea itself was new to me. I mean happy, but not happy enough. Most people, in my experience to that point in my career, were looking for happiness. They had no concerns about being happy enough. All I could do was sit and listen and try to maintain an intelligent look upon my face.

Shirley asked, “Do you know what I mean?” I told her, frankly, that I did not. She seemed to accept this answer as routine. “Well, it’s like I seem to sense that there can be more. Like I am missing something that is just out of reach because I can’t see it. Does that make sense?”

I assured her that feeling this way was normal for many people. They needed something more in their lives but were not sure what it was or where to find it. I knew this insight of mine was fine and true as far as it went. I was not sure within myself if I wasn’t slipping into water that was going to be over my head. But I ventured forth as inexperienced therapists might do when confronted with a never before discussed topic.

“What brings you the most happiness?” I asked. A shot in the dark.

“When I am giving to others and not expecting something in return,” she replied.

A light bulb of learning lit up in my head. “You are talking about love and compassion?” I asked.

“Those are the words,” she blurted. Then I could see the wheels turning in her head. “When I act in a loving way, being compassionate toward others, I feel the best about myself.”

“I think you just sighted those ‘out-of-reach’ things you mentioned. It seems to be human nature,” I said, “that when we give without expecting return, we are at our happiest. When we calculate what we might receive in return for a generous act, the process of happiness is somehow short-circuited within us. When we give of ourselves out of duty, instead of compassion, the experience is somehow empty.”

“So, by being loving and compassionate in every circumstance possible, I will achieve greater happiness?” she asked.

I answered in as wise a manner as I could, “I believe you have answered your own question very well.” (Such a newbie was I.)

Shirley left feeling as she had gained something. As I returned to my desk after seeing her to the office door, I reflected on what I had learned. 1. Sometimes the answer is within the question. 2. There may be different degrees of happiness. 3. Perhaps the greatest happiness we can find lies simply yet profoundly in our nature to be loving and compassionate. 4. It would seem that all persons in their right minds cherish love and compassion in others and in themselves above all else. 5. Following that insight then, your greatest happiness lies in love and compassion.

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There is a difference between deserving love as a fundamental idea within the human species and deserving love from someone you want to love you.

The easier one to explain is feeling like you don’t deserve love from someone specific. Suppose you have been in a relationship with someone. Or you wish you were in a relationship with someone, it just has gotten far yet. Then you screw up in some way. You put the other person down. You flirt openly within a third party. You forget an important date or occasion. You drunkenly make of a fool of yourself. Bottom line? Your do not treat well the person from whom you wish love. In that case, you do not deserve love from that person. Who, in their own right mind, would love someone who treats them badly? No one. So, in this case, you may well say, “I don’t deserve your love.”

I can’t get you out of that one. Only you can turn the tide by treating the other person much, much better.

I can help you with the other: “I don’t deserve to be loved.” Yes, you do. Simply because you exist, you are loved by the Omnipresent Intelligent Harmony. This Harmony has caused your vibrations to settle into a frequency that can be seen and experienced by others and yourself. Therefore, even as 3 + 3 = 6, you are loved. You would not be if The Harmony had not “thought” you up. You have a special place with this Harmony because you were deliberately “made.”

Even if you don’t know who your biological father is, even if you don’t know who your biological mother is, you are loved by The Harmony. I know it is hard to understand. But Harmony does not create discord. You are wanted and loved by The Harmony, no matter your birth, because The Harmony would not do anything that would deliberately bring discord to Itself.

You simply cannot say, as if it were truth, that you don’t deserve to be loved. Because in the simplest terms possible, merely because you exist, you are loved. Harmony resonates with harmony. You find the meaning of life, to be happy, when you accept the Harmony in your life. Harmony is just another way of expressing the idea of love.

How does this Harmony treat you? With the utmost respect and care. The Omnipresent Intelligent Harmony cares that you experience the best life has to offer. It does that by loving you, first and foremost.

From this care you may see how it is possible to win the love of another. However, you must keep in mind the other person may not want to love you for any number of reasons. Some of those reasons will have something to do with you, some may not. The other person is always free to say “No” to your love. If you stalk the other person in any way to try to win their love, you are violating them and taking away their freedom. Which is very unloving.

To win another person’s love, you must treat them as well as is possible for a healthy relationship. Their own choice and freedom are highest in that treatment. If another person accepts your attentions and comes to love you for how you treat them, which comes from your own happiness, then love is well won.

You are Loved As You Are and As You Can Be

Remember, you are love just as you and as you can be – by The Omnipresent Intelligent Harmony.

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Where are such pictures of God obtained? Oh, yes, I know. I lived through them; almost forgot. (Sarcasm) Parents and churches, mostly, teach that is only because of God’s mercy that we are not more miserable than we are. They say, “If God weren’t so merciful, a reign of terror would befall you because you are so bad.”

I am here today to refute what I see as nonsense. Someone or a group of people have set this figure in the sky as an exacting master who keeps a tally of every good and bad thing we do. Then metes out punishment in cruel ways when we stray too far to the bad side of the ledger. So “I get what I deserve.” Such were the words of my step-mother, almost exactly. She was raised by a group of persons, called a church, that said that God was vengeful, just waiting to punish people for their sins. Keeping a keen eye open for opportunities to make life hell for people here on earth.

Then, if that were not enough, God made a special place for longtime, or big, sinners. It was called Hell, where people would literally burn in eternal penalty, and terrible the pain of it.

What utter nonsense.

The God I know, The Source of All That Is, has no need of a hell. For God as I know It is loving. Indeed, God is Love. Love does not punish in a way such as some think “we deserve it.”

True Love accepts all, forgives all. Moves on.

Yes, I believe there is such a thing as evil. I also believe that there is karma. The evil that we do comes back upon us in this life or in another reincarnation. But that is the nature of things. Karma is like 2 + 2 = 5. When we do good it comes back upon us as well, in this life or some other reincarnation. This is not retribution or vengeance; it is just the way things are constructed. If I put my hand on a hot burner, I will surely get burned. When I caress the cheek of an infant in affection or admiration, I am honored for that deed in this life or in another reincarnation.

I think it obvious that if you believe God cruel and vengeful, you’ll always be looking over your shoulder to see what is coming for you. What you have done lately that you will think deserves more misery to be placed in your life? Do you hear the hoof beats of the four horsemen of the Apocalypse bearing down upon you?

Whereas, when you know that God loves you just as you are, with all that you have done or left undone, you’ll be looking forward (not over your shoulder) to an ever brighter day spiritually. When you accept that God accepts you just as you are, the possibilities for growth are endless. What you deserve then is only the best. Not in some arrogant and grasping way, but in the way of love within you. Love for yourself and all who inhabit this planet with us. Set free, you are.

So, you need to understand from this day forward that The Source of All That Is loves you, Accepts you. Promotes your well-being. Wishes you experience only the best.

Today, cast off those thoughts of the horsemen riding you down. Live as if God loves you. For God does love you. If you had every confidence that you could always work in your own best interests, what good would you do today? Do it.

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