The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Finding happiness, of course, means less unhappiness. Finding new happiness may indeed preclude the old milestones of where you are in your life. New boundaries of an expanded nature may be easily set by you in your found and retained happiness.

Unhappiness is an alienating limitation. It is a limitation that cuts you off from yourself, from others, from the Divine, from happiness. You want to be truly free from unhappiness. You wish to be happy all the time, no matter what is happening in the world outside of yourself.

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There is a way to help yourself do that on a continuing basis. That way is audacious altruism. Give of yourself. Whether the gesture of the giving of yourself is grand or of a lower intensity does not matter. What matters is that you are getting out of the “me first” attitude.

Here I have a quandary. First I was taught that I must never be selfish. That I was always to put other people first. Think of others before I thought of myself. Of course, this as a steady diet ruins one’s life. You become exhausted by always preferring the other to oneself. You use up your own energy trying to please and do for others until there is nothing left of you but a hollow shell.

Then I was taught that I must actually put myself first so that I would have the energy and wherewithal to do for others. It was confusing at first, to be sure. I had had a lifetime of putting others first then suddenly realized that was a way to the destruction of myself. If there was none of me to be had, how could I possible help or do for another?

Which way was it to be? Out for myself or give everything away to others? This all led me, by a circuitous route, to the idea of having happiness as an interior quality. Such a way of life led to a new sense of self and a way to be for others as well.

When you are happy by having found unconditional acceptance from The All There Is, or Tathis for short, “me first” is no longer a problem or a quandary. You have filled yourself with so much happiness that it overflows into your world and you just feel like you want to help.

You feel like you ought to help others because there is more happiness inside you than you can retain there. You feel as if you have to let it out because it is overflowing on its own. Indeed, you are so filled that you come upon the feeling of audacity in your altruism.

What do I mean? I mean that I take the chance of helping others. Formerly I was afraid that if I gave away much of myself, there would come a point where I had none left for myself. I would empty myself, become that empty shell spoken about earlier. Now, I know that is not true. When I give in the ways I can now, I find that I have more and more to give not less and less. The old limits and boundaries vanished.

Dare I say, I am bigger than I was before I found happiness. This bigger self is even more giving than my former self. So I am freer than I have ever been. I am less devoted to my self because I know there is much, much more happiness than I can ever “use.”

Why not try this for yourself? If you are feeling limited, or bound by the same old limitations, why not break out and discover for yourself what it means to be audaciously altruistic?

How? Find happiness within yourself by being in a spiritual relationship with Tathis. Find that all-accepting, unconditional love that is Tathis. When you find that way of being, you will find happiness just flowing through you – to you and thence to others when it overflows you.

Then you may want to dare to give out of yourself, to be audaciously altruistic.  You will become a spiritual boundary breaker of the first magnitude. Get to it.

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Mitch said, “I am restless, Dr. Bob. I wake up in the middle of the night and am wide awake. What could be happening with me?”

“Do you get physical exercise?” I asked.

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“Three times a week to the gym, each time about an hour and a half in aerobics and resistance training. Pleasantly tired when finished each time,” Mitch said.

Mitch did look physically fit. He was medium height with a solid build. Perhaps he was thirty five.

“Everything O.K. at home?”

“I am not aware of any major problems. Oh, the small things with work and kids. Nothing to keep me awake that I am aware of.”

He looked at me. I looked at him. I took a shot in the dark. “When was the last time you expressed yourself?” I asked.

Mitch asked in return, “Expressed myself? I don’t get what you mean, Dr. Bob.”

“I mean when was the last time you wrote a love poem to your wife? When was the last time you made up a bedtime story for your three kids? When was the last time you air-directed a symphony orchestra?”

“Whoa,” he said. “Where are you going with this?”

“I am not sure, just a hunch. But what about the answers to my questions?”

Mitch thought for about 20 seconds and then said, “I haven’t done any of those things in a long time. I still don’t know where you are going with this.”

“We all have spirits that need expression, Mitch. If we don’t exercise that expression, those spirits become restless. Some people just go along until their spirits become dull and empty, no longer asking to participate in life. Sometimes this non-participation leads to restlessness. Awake at odd hours. No forward life-progress. Sounds like maybe you have this affliction.”

“Affliction? You mean I am sick?” asked Mitch.

“No. I mean that live was meant to be lived. To be happy is to know you are alive by trying to expand your life. By trying to change. By trying to grow. Life is overcoming obstacles or dangers. Life is getting out of your comfort zone. Sound interesting?”

Mitch developed a small smile with his lips and eyes. Maybe I had hit a resonating chord within him. It was only a guess. It was a place to start.

“You think I am restless and can’t sleep well because I haven’t expressed my spirit enough?” he asked.

“I think it a real possibility. When was the last time you took some time and did express the fact that you are happy to be alive?”

His smile grew wider. “I can’t remember. I used to invent stories for the kids all the time. How did you know I air-directed symphonies? I can’t remember the last time I pushed the walls of my comfort zone in any way. Wow.”

“All of us need to embrace our lives and take every opportunity to expand them through the expression of happiness. The Very Spirit of the Universe seeks to express itself through you and your reaching beyond the ordinary.”

“My fidgetiness may be because I haven’t told my kids stories recently? That simple,” Mitch asked.

“Well, not quite that simple,” I said. “But making up stories is a way of giving tongue to your spirit. It can be gardening, photography, videography, learning a new language, Tai Chi, skydiving, lifting the next heavier weight. Express yourself.”
Mitch said he would try my suggestions. I reminded him he was the best developer of his own spirit; he needed to think of his own ideas to fulfill his spirit. We made an appointment for two weeks in the future.

When Mitch came to see me again, I could tell immediately he was much more rested than when I had seen him last. He told me he was developing his spirit and was sleeping better. He felt happier as well, he said.

I bid him come again if he needed more. To this point, he is doing fine without further help, as far as I can see.

Dear reader: the Supreme Spirit seeks manifestation through you and your spirit. When you leave this aspect of your life unfulfilled, you will find yourself restless. The very phenomenon of being alive and happy is to participate in enlargement, variety and advancement. Do so beginning now.

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