The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

One of my granddaughters has developed a unique self-style. Believe it or not, she even twice pierced her own lower lip. (I do not recommend this.) She wears heavy black makeup around her eyes in what she names as the “Emo” fashion. (A check on the Internet gives a number of websites dedicated to Emo.) She wears her hair in the sharp contrast of Emo as well.

My point is that everyone wants to be distinctive. She gets looks from most other people when she is at school or out at a restaurant with her grandparents. She comments that people are looking and that sometimes she likes that and sometimes she doesn’t like it. We say, as kindly as possible, “If you are going to dress like that, you’re going to get looks.”

But being distinctive is as old as humankind. What differentiates you from others? Are we unique unto ourselves or do you wholly conform to the group? So there have been tattoos, body piercings, headdress styles, clothing styles, the wearing of jewelry that comes in great variety from shells to diamonds, all through the recorded history of humankind. That one may stand out from the others.

Such differences among people have been lauded and worshiped or vilified and assassinated. Or something in between. We are want to be different enough to be ourselves. We all know, however, that physical appearance is no real indication of distinctiveness. We all realize, instinctively, that what we are comes from who we are on the inside. What we are on the inside makes us what we are on the outside.

“From being stirs doing.”

A key life phrase, then, is “Distinguish yourself.” Be who your are, for sure. But the sureness comes from inside. Someone starts a fashion and others follow, even if in their own individual ways. Let your outward expression be a refraction of your inward being. This is the only way to be true to yourself in the short and long term.

Refraction is defined as how light, sound, heat, or the like, passes through one medium into another. To make your unique contribution to the world, to distinguish yourself from all others, you must let the light of the Divine Consciousness pass through you and be seen in the substantial world. But to do that you need to know who you are on the inside. You do that through meditation and encountering who you really are in connection to the Divine Consciousness. Let me assure you that as the Light passes through your, others will see your uniqueness. Let me also assure that the Divine Consciousness does not dictate to you what the refraction will look like. You are totally free to be.

So, distinguish yourself. Be who you are singularly. Begin by finding out who you are inwardly. Then let the refraction of Divine Consciousness come through you and paint pictures of your individuality on the canvas of the world.

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I learned early on in my Life Coaching career that I was responsible for the direction my career was taking. Indeed, when I intentionally or inadvertently left it in the hands of others, my path was not likeable.

I thought that the Divine Consciousness that powers the Universe would take care of everything. I just had to be faithful to that Consciousness. That’s what I was taught from an early age. That’s what I believed well into my twenties.  But beginning in my late twenties, I began to sense that this was not the case. Something was missing. My career path went in directions that were not to my liking. Later, much later in life, I would discover that this was NOT the fault of the Divine Consciousness. The Universe being essentially neutral in its response to me, lead me in paths that I gave off vibrations about. The blame was with me for sending the wrong signals.

But for so long, I just “kept the faith” and let things go where they would. Not a good idea. I needed to take responsibility. I came to believe that I am responsible for my own happiness, the meaning of life. Therefore, I was responsible for what my career was doing too. Let me help you from my experience. You need to say and this: I take responsibility for where my occupation is taking me.

Some will want to say to me,”"This is so simple, everyone knows it. Why even bother to make it an important life phrase?” I agree, it is simple. But I do not see many people taking it seriously. I’d guess that at least 2 out of every 3 people know this, but do not do this.

That’s why I want you, for your own sake, for your good, to take this life phrase to heart and beginning saying it and using it right today. When was the last time you made plans for where you want to be in your occupation next year? How about in 5 years? Have you made strategies to get you there? What education, for example, do you need to get where you want to be in 5 years?

I take responsibility.

Please do not put blind trust in your present education. Please do not place blind trust in the company that you work for now. Please do not put your entire trust in the market place if you are self-employed.

Take responsibility for yourself. Few if any will, in the end, take responsibility besides yourself.

When I put blind trust in the organization I was working for, those responsible within that organization, for a variety of reasons, some benign, some not so benign, did not really look out for me. I needed to do that. When I knew it was time, for example, to make a change from one location to some other, I let the “system work.” As I was told it would. It did not, because my superiors really did not understand the needs of their own organization at the time. Because they could not see the internal needs, they missed matching me into a new location. It felt like benign neglect. Don’t let this happen to you.

Just as the meaning of life to be happy, and you need to take responsibility for your own happiness, so you need to take responsibility for your own occupation. For you are supposed to project your own happiness into what you do. You can’t do that unless you take responsibility there too. Take your responsibility by keeping this life phrase in mind: I Take Responsibility for Where My Occupation Is Taking Me.

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“She doesn’t seem to have her own personality.” So remarked my wife about the person one of our relations was dating. “Nice person, sweet, but no life of her own.” My wife then went on to say that it seems more women than men have this problem.

She said they go from their parents’ home, to college, to marriage, never having experience being “on their own.” I said it probably happens to men as well. She said she thought it did too, but much more so to women.

That’s the point of this post. Too many folks listen to the dreams and goals other people have for them. Some folks are so used to hearing about what others want of them, they have never had an original thought about themselves.

There’s the classic case of the father trying to live out the missed opportunities in his youth through his now teen-aged son. The father wants him to be a great football player. But they kid has true interests elsewhere, though he doesn’t know it because he had never had a chance to develop his own way of thinking. Maybe the kid really excels in drawing but never gets the chance to follow that dream because the father wants him practicing with the football every spare minute.

You cannot be authentically who you really are until you claim for yourself your own dreams and goals. Heed them. When you make yourself follow someone’s else ideas for you, you have given away your spiritual freedom, at least, and maybe all the rest of your freedoms.

What does that mean? What does it mean to heed your own dreams and goals? First you must discover what they might be. Has some life-path been poking at you? Have you felt rebellion against what others wanted (want) you to do? Because of that rebellion have you found yourself contemplating a different goal or dream? Wanting to test your wings in that direction?

Heed those inklings. Explore the possibilities. See if what you are thinking will fit you very well. You may not hit-the-nail-on-the-head the very first try. But it will not be long before you will find your true path. Warning: Your true path may be very distasteful to those who formerly tried to run your life. You have to be ready to deal with that.

Once you are discovered your new path, walk down it boldly. In other words, take the risks you need to take to find out if this is for you. Check with your spiritual side as well. See if this is a spiritual fit for you as well.

You see, heeding your own dreams and goals has to do, ultimately, with the meaning of life. The meaning of life is to be happy. You cannot be happy even superficially if you are following what someone else wants for you. There, beginning in this minute, heed your own dreams and goals.

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