You were born to be happy. The natural state of your mind is happiness. Something occurred along the path of your life that turned you away from this natural state.
In a nutshell, here’s what happened. Your mind got very busy and you began to dwell in the past or in the future instead of the here and now. Think of yourself as an infant. When you were well feed, clean, dry, warm, sheltered, all of which was provided by someone else, you were happy and content.
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As you grew and matured, however, life became much more complicated. Learning to feed yourself, potty training, getting along with siblings, obeying parents, all these and many more began to occupy your mind, even as it was developing itself. You needed to remember things so you didn’t get into trouble or so that you were rewarded for excellent behavior. In other words, you discovered you had a past and some of that had to be recollected in order for you to function optimally.
Your mind is hurrying along also because your discovered there was a future. Something or someone to anticipate. You even learned to prepare for what might happen in the future.
Your mind was no longer still for any period of time. You no longer lived in the present moment either. You can see, I hope, that none of this casts any blame on you for the lack of happiness you have in your life to this point in that life. (What happens next you do have responsibility for because you are creating your life even as we speak.)
To create happiness, again, you need to still your mind and live in the present moment as you did as a well cared for infant. Still minds and present moments lead to happiness.
What does a still mind do for you? It allows you to detach from every distraction. Everything that has happened in the past or may happened in the future is a distraction from which you need to distance yourself.
You acquire a still mind by developing some form of meditation in your life on a consistent and long term basis. There are many forms to choose from and you do not need to limit yourself to one form. Tai Chi is an example of “meditation in motion.” Listening to meditative type music is another. Mentally speaking mantras or chanting aloud “Om” are additional ways of meditation. An easy Internet search will give you all the choices you need.
When you are practicing a still mind for yourself, you then can more easily practice living in this present moment. Thoroughly detach yourself from the past and the future. While you are at it, detach yourself from everything and everybody in your life that tries to draw you out of the present moment.
I do not mean that you abandon any relationships. But you realize that you only have a relationship in the present moment anyway. You are not guaranteed that a relationship will last forever. You only have a relationship in the present moment. Certainly cherish it in the now. But do not cling to it as if it will save you from … whatever.
When you clearly and cleanly live in the present moment with a still mind, you are closer to happiness. Indeed, in the still mind through meditation you will find happiness as the meaning of life. Then, as you live in the present moment, you can feel that happiness bubbling up within you. Get to it.