The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Being happy is not all that difficult. Happiness on a continuing basis does take effort and patience. It is not an arduous task, however. Here are five simple rules for you to follow and you will find yourself happier.

Rule Number One: Free your emotions from hatred.

Whenever you have hatred of any kind, against anyone or anything, you diminish your life. Hatred does not really harm the other, but it does harm you.

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Your energies are consumed by it. Your attention is held fast by it.

Suppose your have hatred of another person, or persons, of another ethnic group. Often such hatred arises out of prejudice. One pre-judges another and groups all persons of that heritage as the same. They are to be hated simply because they are of that heritage.

But one has to be near these folks all the time, perhaps in the work environment. You become so consumed with avoiding them, or not speaking to them, that your work actually suffers. Your attention is so much on them and how “bad” they are, that you cannot focus on your own job. That will come to the attention of your boss for the worse.

So let hate go. Discover where your prejudice comes from and why. Dissolve it. Learn to known others for what they are now, not what you think they may be.

When you get your own focus off of your hatreds, you will be much better able to do what needs done in your work. That will come to the attention of your boss for the better.

Rule Number Two: Free your mind of worries.

You cannot change anything or anyone through worry. Besides, it has been shown that upwards of 80% of what we worry about never comes to pass.

This does not mean that you ought not prepare for possibilities and eventualities. It might be a good idea to carry health insurance, for example. But that does not mean you need to worry about becoming ill or developing an injury.

It would be a good idea to prepare for an exam rather worry about whether you are going to pass it or not. Worry will never change your grade. But preparation will.

When you thoroughly understand that worry never changed anything, you can use that now-free energy to do and be that which is really important to you. If you worry about the actions of your kids, for example, you will diminish the quality of the time spent with them.

You can teach your kids how to react and behave as you see fit. But you have to let go of the worry you may have about how they will turn out. They will make their own way, no matter what.

Be concerned, be prepared, but do not worry.

Rule Number Three: Live Simply.

As far as is possible, live as simply as you can. Luxuries are very nice to have. Fine possessions are great to own.

But, as we all know, they will not bring you happiness in themselves. As a matter of fact, many people find that once they have acquired luxuries, they are disappointed. The fun was actually in the pursuit of things, not the things in themselves.

Further, living simply means you do not crowd your life with unnecessary things. You have what need. Do you really need more than you need? Probably not.

Give up unnecessary things and you have less to take care of – to dust and polish and clean and organize. This lets your being be freer to do the things that matter the most, like making and keeping contact with the Mega Consciousness of the Universe.

Rule Number Four: Give more.

This one is so often neglected. To round your life off, to make it as pleasant as possible, you need to extend yourself to others in the world.

If not fond of people and their causes, there are animals and their causes.

If neither people nor animals meet your expectations, there is the environment which affects you and everything and everyone else.

Giving more gets you out of yourself. Nothing wrong with yourself but part of living well and happily is to give outside of yourself. This builds your rapport with the Universe.

The giving that results from your happiness makes for more happiness in the world. Which in turn reflects upon your own happiness. It all becomes a pleasant and benevolent cycle.

Rule Number Five: Expect less.

So many in the western world believe they are entitled – to everything. If it exists, many believe, they are to have it.

I do not mean you need to deprive yourself of things you can afford. I mean – do you really need to consume so much as if it is yours by right and everyone else be damned?

Of course not. There is more than enough to go around. There really is no scarcity in the west. So, enjoy what you have and do not grasp beyond what it is you really need to be comfortable.

There are five simple rules that, by following them, you will find yourself much happier. They really are simple, aren’t they?

But can you follow them to you own good? I cordially challenge you to abide by them and see what happens in your life.

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Rico came through my office door exclaiming, “What makes you so happy, Dr. Bob?” Then he sat down.

He was a little angry. I had something he wanted but couldn’t figure out how to get.

I smiled and said, “I’ve got connections.”

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Rico was in his mid-thirties. Though Rico is not his real name, he is Hispanic American. He had a good job and a very nice family. He and his family had been attending our caring community for over three years.

Rico said, “I want those same connections.” He spoke those words as if I were keeping something from him.

“Are you willing to work at them? They don’t come easy, although they are cheap.”

“You know I can work hard.”

“O.K. Here are the three of them: 1. A Connection with The Source of All There Is. 2. A connection with yourself. 3. A connection with others.”

He wasn’t expecting those. But then he leaned forward in his chair just a little, indicating his eagerness.

First, I began to explain, comes a connection with The Source of All There Is. Some call this Source God, but I often find that there is too much harmful baggage to unpack and discard with this word “God.” So I use a less familiar term – The Source of All There Is.

You get in touch with this Source through meditation or prayer. I stick closer to meditation as prayer also can have negative connotations for many folks. I told Rico he needed to develop a meditative life using one of the many forms of meditation.

What would that do for him? This connection would help him find the meaning of his life, which, I believe, is to be happy. You find happiness when you come to understand that The Source accepts you just as you are. Full acceptance and acceptance of your acceptance equals happiness.

You choose to be happy knowing you are accepted. Happiness here is defined as an excellent sense of well-being. Joy, on the other hand, is an emotion that erupts from external events. Happiness is a choice to feel a sense of well-being no matter what is happening in your external world.

This sense of well-being is developed and perpetuated through a connection with The Source of All There Is.

But you do not finished there. You go on to accept yourself just as you are. Yes, we can all improve. But we start just where we are right now. Rich or poor or in between; tall, short or medium; thin or heavy or in between; educated or not; family or single; all these, any of these is just the way you are right now. Accept that.

In other words, make a genuine affirming connection with yourself. Be aware of who you really are. As you are totally and unconditionally accepted by The Source, there is no need to look at yourself as anything else. No matter what you have done or not done, been or not been, said or not said, you affirm yourself just as you are.

Many people find themselves separated from themselves because they feel they are not as perfect as they are supposed to be. Nonsense. You are perfect just the way you are. Yes, improvements may need to be made. But as you are, right now, you are perfectly human.

These two: acceptance from The Source and affirmation of self, lead to a connection with others. Why? You need to express your acceptance and affirmation in the world around you as you interact with others.

Now that you know you are accepted by The Source and you have affirmed yourself, you can see that all others are in the same boat as you whether they realize it or not.

They need to know they are accepted by The Source. They need to know they can affirm themselves just as they are. One of the ways they can discover these is through your actions and words.

How? When you show compassion for others, you have demonstrated acceptance and affirmation. How many people need affirmation and acceptance? That’s right – everyone. You can be one of the instruments to help others. You share your happiness.

When you share it you reinforce happiness within yourself. You reinforce your connection to The Source. You reinforce your self-connection. You reinforce your connection with others as they respond positiviely to your kindness and compassion.

Rico said, “I can do that. I’ll start with the next person I meet.” We parted then but as I saw Rico frequently, he did seem much happier than before we talked together.

You can make these three connections as well. Start now.

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You have heard it said that you need to live in the Now. But actually you are more than that. You are the Now.

That you are the Now is your essential integrity. Even beyond essential, however, your being the Now is your imperative integrity. If you do not recognize yourself as the Now, you are missing your true identity – your imperative integrity.

When you are missing your imperative identity, you do not really know who you are. Let’s explore who you are and how that relates to the meaning of life and happiness.

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When you stop and think – you are conscious. That you can think about thinking “proves” you are conscious. Perhaps no other entity on this Earth is capable of thinking about thinking.

But what do you do with thinking or consciousness? You seek. What do you look for? Everyone, I believe, eventually looks for meaning in life. Why am I here? What am I to do?

So, we all look for meaning. From consciousness we are impelled to look for meaning in our lives. When we make a conscious and deliberate connection to the Source of All There Is, and maintain that link, we discover that the meaning of life is to be happy.

When we become conscious of the fact that we are completely accepted by the Source, we will know happiness. There is no greater feeling than to be totally and unconditionally accepted. Such a grand emotion can be defined as happiness.

How do you continually experience happiness then? By being the Now. You are the Now by being conscious. Being conscious leads you to find the meaning of life. Discovering the meaning of life propels you to happiness. Happiness is enjoyed through consciousness. Consciousness is being the Now. Your imperative integrity is that you are the Now.

What does this do for you in practical terms? It sets you right in the geographical and emotional middle of your life. You are not outside yourself looking in. Many people feel as if they really do not have much to do with their own life. They feel like outsiders. “Like strangers in a strange land.”

When you are conscious and accept your imperative integrity, your identity, you are at home – wherever and whenever you are. Do you see? You are at home because wherever and whenever you are, there you are – Now. Sounds like a Berra-ism, doesn’t it?

And what is more, this identity of yours never changes. You can count on it. As long as you are conscious, you are. You are because you are the Now. No matter what happens to you – or does not happen to you – you are because you are the Now. You live beyond living in the moment. Your entire universe consists of your consciousness.

This may sound incredibly self-centered. As if there is no room for anybody else. In one sense that is true. You are you; you are the Now. There is no one else. Unless you let them in. And when you really think about that, it is quite true. No one else exists for you unless you let them into your consciousness. Your essential identity remains inviolate unless you choose to let someone else exist in your consciousness.

You see this every time you finally notice someone who has been nearby but whom you did not, at first, notice. They did not exist for you until you opened your consciousness to them. Of course, if wish to feel emotions beyond yourself, you will need to open your consciousness to recognize the existence and importance of others.

But you do not need to feel the emotions of friendship, kinship, etc., unless you want to. You do not need anyone else. You may certainly want to have others in your life. But you are complete within yourself because you are the Now. You are complete in your imperative integrity. You are self-sufficient in the finest sense of that term.

There you have it. Somewhat convoluted, I know. But when you will try to understand, you will comprehend your essential identity, your imperative integrity. These will synchronize with the meaning of life, which is to be happy. Do so beginning right – Now.

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