The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Beginning with this post and continuing, The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy shall have both video and text for you to enjoy. As always comments, questions, concerns are welcome and invited.

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Sitting in a doctor’s office, waiting for your appointment, can sometimes be very interesting. Of course, you can people-watch as long as you are not too obvious about it. But the conversations that arise are often the most interesting. All kinds of subjects come up and you get to hear what others are thinking, their prejudices, their fantasies, etc.

Being in the “happiness business,” the conversations that attract most of my attention are the ones about, you guessed it, happiness. Often the word “happiness” is not even used. But that’s what the conversation is about, really.

So and so did such and such and now I am broke. He lost every spare nickel we had playing poker with his buddies. Now we are broke. Did you hear that name and name is breaking up with her husband?  I feel and can’t get up anymore. This illness is making me so depressed. I wish there was a pill to simply cure it. I fell so useless when he leaves, even though he is 35 and ought to be on his own.

Now, to be sure, some happenings are truly painful. Divorce, illness, debt are some of those. But when people pin their happiness on these exterior events, they have misplaced their joy.

So many folks rely on external situations to define their happiness. Surely negative events can have a negative effect on us. But happiness does not come from the outside. When we give over control of our happiness to people and events outside ourselves, we miss the point of living free.

Who is it that controls your mind and spirit? Please, I humbly ask you to think well before you answer that question. You might be surprised at the percentage of people who think others have control of their spirits and minds. Sometimes religion even encourages people to think that someone evil has command.

But it is you who has power over your own thinking and being. Yes, others may well have some control over your finances, how you are treated in a health crisis, how you are cared for in a relationship, and so on. No one but you, however, has control over your thoughts.

You have got to take that responsibility yourself. The minute you give over control of your spirit to another, you have given up the right to your own happiness. Don’t do that. Claim your right to be happy, no matter what is happening outside of your thoughts and spirit.

Your life and your happiness are in your own hands. Work on your happiness and your life will follow. How do you gain control of your happiness? You talk to yourself; that’s one way. The internal conversation that you carry on with yourself determines how you see the world. If your internal conversation is negative, your world will be negative. When your internal conversation is positive, you internal life will be positive. Which means happy.

How do you get in on the interior chat? You listen. Yes, it’s that simple. Stop and listen. What are you saying to yourself? Damaging self-talk is, obviously, self-destructive. Favorable self talk is, obviously, self-constructive. Who tells you what to say to you? You do. You have your own happiness in your own hands.

Start right now, to monitor your self-talk. Take just 30 seconds when you finishing watching this video or reading the text, and listen to what you are saying about yourself. Be sure to complete that 30 second visit with yourself by saying something positive about you.

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Many people go into their bedroom, stand in the middle of the floor and cannot remember what they were after.

Its not that they have a serious disease; it’s just that their minds have rolled on to the next thing before they got from the bedroom what they wanted. Suppose you were going the play golf and you needed your shoes which are stored in your bedroom closet. But after getting to the bedroom, you draw a blank. What are you doing there? What were you after? A simple thing made more complicated by the fact that your mind has gone on to the next step and the next step in preparation of swinging the driver on the first tee. Do you see? It’s not a faulty memory you’re dealing with. It’s simply that your mind has been rolling onto the next thing. What comes next in getting ready to golf, or in dealing with family issues? So you’ve forgotten what you set out to do.

In order to take control of your inner life and your short term memory,

you need to be present in the moment.

Not the last moment or last week. Not the next moment or next week. Be present in this moment. It is, after all, the minute you really have. Ruminating about the past won’t change it. Supposing about the future won’t guarantee it.

How do you do take control of your inner life? You use individual spiritual endeavor to focus, concentrate in this moment. Pull your mind away, by the power of your spirit, from beguilement. Spirit rules the mind when you make the effort to have the spirit do so. Take a moment to stop and think. Stop and think? But I just said the spirit rules the mind. By the power of the will which is contained within the spirit, make yourself halt and reckon. Concentrate on this minute. What is it you need to be or do in THIS moment?

What does this have to do with the Meaning of Life? Everything. Your life consists of this moment. That moment is defined in your inner life. If you miss this moment, you have missed the meaning of your life.

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