Beginning with this post and continuing, The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy shall have both video and text for you to enjoy. As always comments, questions, concerns are welcome and invited.
Sitting in a doctor’s office, waiting for your appointment, can sometimes be very interesting. Of course, you can people-watch as long as you are not too obvious about it. But the conversations that arise are often the most interesting. All kinds of subjects come up and you get to hear what others are thinking, their prejudices, their fantasies, etc.
Being in the “happiness business,” the conversations that attract most of my attention are the ones about, you guessed it, happiness. Often the word “happiness” is not even used. But that’s what the conversation is about, really.
So and so did such and such and now I am broke. He lost every spare nickel we had playing poker with his buddies. Now we are broke. Did you hear that name and name is breaking up with her husband? I feel and can’t get up anymore. This illness is making me so depressed. I wish there was a pill to simply cure it. I fell so useless when he leaves, even though he is 35 and ought to be on his own.
Now, to be sure, some happenings are truly painful. Divorce, illness, debt are some of those. But when people pin their happiness on these exterior events, they have misplaced their joy.
So many folks rely on external situations to define their happiness. Surely negative events can have a negative effect on us. But happiness does not come from the outside. When we give over control of our happiness to people and events outside ourselves, we miss the point of living free.
Who is it that controls your mind and spirit? Please, I humbly ask you to think well before you answer that question. You might be surprised at the percentage of people who think others have control of their spirits and minds. Sometimes religion even encourages people to think that someone evil has command.
But it is you who has power over your own thinking and being. Yes, others may well have some control over your finances, how you are treated in a health crisis, how you are cared for in a relationship, and so on. No one but you, however, has control over your thoughts.
You have got to take that responsibility yourself. The minute you give over control of your spirit to another, you have given up the right to your own happiness. Don’t do that. Claim your right to be happy, no matter what is happening outside of your thoughts and spirit.
Your life and your happiness are in your own hands. Work on your happiness and your life will follow. How do you gain control of your happiness? You talk to yourself; that’s one way. The internal conversation that you carry on with yourself determines how you see the world. If your internal conversation is negative, your world will be negative. When your internal conversation is positive, you internal life will be positive. Which means happy.
How do you get in on the interior chat? You listen. Yes, it’s that simple. Stop and listen. What are you saying to yourself? Damaging self-talk is, obviously, self-destructive. Favorable self talk is, obviously, self-constructive. Who tells you what to say to you? You do. You have your own happiness in your own hands.
Start right now, to monitor your self-talk. Take just 30 seconds when you finishing watching this video or reading the text, and listen to what you are saying about yourself. Be sure to complete that 30 second visit with yourself by saying something positive about you.
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