The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Happiness is, of course, going to mean different things to different people. Here are my ideas.

To be happy is the meaning of life. This statement is attested to by various sages both ancient and modern.

But how do you find and keep happiness? Here are the three ideas:

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1. Make and keep a connection with The Source of All There Is. Some will name this source “God.” You may name it anything you wish, or name it nothing at all. All I ask is that you drop any baggage that the term “God” may have held for you.

2. Experience your life as if it was meaningful – for it is. In other words, seek as many positive experiences as you can hold. This is the purpose of your life.

3. Beam your bliss into the world through experiencing and sharing. When you know meaning, happiness and purpose, this beaming will feel like it must be done.

Here’s what I mean in expanded detail.

It is my belief that in order to be happy you need make a genuine connection to The Source of All There Is. Why? For the simple reason that the world and life in the world cannot give you happiness. You cannot discover real happiness in the world because it is not there.

It is not in the world because all things and even people in the world eventually disappear. There is nothing permanent in the corporal world. It grieves us all that this is the case. But it must be faced for it is something that all of us will face sooner or later.

What is permanent, if anything? It seems to me that the Universe is permanent. The Universe is The Source of All There Is. The energy of the Universe is never lost, never vanishes to never be seen again.

Everything comes from this Source – the Universe. In It you live and move and have your being. Without It you could not be.

But why make a connection to It? Because in It you will find complete and utterly unconditional acceptance. In that acceptance you will find meaning. The meaning of life is to be happy. You find happiness because you are completely accepted as you are.

There is no grander feeling than to be completely, totally accepted – no conditions or qualifications. This is meaning and happiness.

Okay. So finding complete acceptance is to find the meaning of life which is to be happy. But what do you do with your life? What’s your purpose?

Because The Source of All There is the Complete Entity it cannot be in relationship to anything else. It is whole. Yet it needs to feel active, vibrant, real. How does anything know what it feels like to be real?

By interacting with other things. Experiencing itself as over against something else. So, you get to be the interacting agent on behalf of The Source of All There Is. You can experience yourself as experiencing.

What do you need to experience? Everything positive that you can hold or encounter. No one, including The Source, tells you what you must digest as experience. You are free to choose. You choose many, many opportunities over a lifetime.

When you do this encountering, you are living on behalf of The Source. That is your purpose.

When you know the meaning of life, which is to be happy, and when you are experiencing – fulfilling your purpose – you will feel impelled to beam your bliss into the world.

In other words, you will feel like sharing what you know about meaning, happiness, purpose. Just as if you won the lottery and you want to share your good news with everyone, so you will feel about true, real happiness.

You beam your bliss by giving yourself away. That can be done in a myriad of ways. Teach. Donate. Build. Comfort. Encourage. And more.

While you are beaming your bliss, you will be reinforcing your own happiness by spreading that happiness and seeing the results in other people’s lives. You will be developing a pleasant circle (as opposed to a vicious circle).

There you have it: an answer to the question, “What Is happiness?” Get to developing within yourself those three ideas right now.

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One Person Can Change The World

Stan said, “I was in the neighborhood and I thought I’d stop by. Is this a good time?”

I’ll never know if Stan really just happened to be in the neighborhood. I never asked and I never will ask. But his visit to my office was something that needed to happen for both of us.

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Stan said as he seated himself in my visitor’s chair, “I have been trying to be happy as you have taught us, Dr. Bob. But I don’t always feel happy. I don’t always have a sense of joy. What am I doing wrong?”

This question drew me up short in my own thinking. I had not really given a lot of thought to the idea of how one is supposed to be after finding and maintaining happiness. I knew from my own life I was not always jumping for joy, though I held happiness within me at all times.

I said to Stan, “Happiness does not always make us feel happy. Happiness is more a state of well-being that we hold within us at all times. There are times when we deal with any number of circumstances that preclude our jumping for joy.”

You have seen people on TV who have won prizes of one kind or another and they literally “jump-for-joy.” They jump up and down and clap their hands. Big smiles on their faces. Maybe even tears of joy flowing from their eyes.

But what about other times when tears of a different sort stream from one’s eyes? Are we to be bubbling with ecstasy then? Suppose a dearly loved person has died, certainly it is in poor taste, at least, to be so overcome with bliss that we are all smiles and giggles. Suppose hundreds or thousands of people have lost their lives or their possessions in a severe disaster? Does being happy within rule out affinity or empathy?

That would be silly and rude. What then? The core still holds. But the external appearance is subdued. The internal central repository of your life is still balanced to be happy. But one can be, and might need to be, sad on the outside.

Here’s the deal. One can respond appropriately to outward circumstances while maintaining a happy inward source. The center of your life holds. Your trust and belief in The Soul Of The Universe remains. I needed to inwardly articulate that to myself. I had never done it before Stan came into my office. I explained to Stan what it meant to keep on trusting and believing his connection to The Soul Of The Universe.

Trust means you adhere to the fact that no matter the outward circumstances of your life, your connection to the Divine remains intact. It is a matter of believing it so. Belief is a matter of deliberate choice. “Keep on believing.”

So – you are sad when you feel sad or when sorrow is a true reflection of outward contexts. You stop and think seriously when serious thought is required. You do what needs doing. You be what needs being. You bubble with joy and bliss when that fits the situation you find yourself in.

Stan said, “That sure takes a load off my mind. I thought I had missed something. So as I remain in that ‘happy place’ within myself, I respond as is appropriate for the environment in which I find myself.”

“I’d say you’ve got it, Stan,” I said.

Remain trusting of the connection to The Divine you have developed from your time spent in meditation. Hard core certitude. Then you will able to deal with any situation appropriately and keep happiness as well.

As a matter of fact, in your every day life, you don’t have to be all smiles and giggles of joy. You can be who you are in relation to the contingencies of your life. Maybe you do not have an effervescent personality. You still can be happy inside always – no matter the life-condition facing you in any given moment.

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In their search for the meaning of life, to be happy, one of our blog readers asked this question: How to attract the best?

I am not sure they were talking about the best of humans or the best of everything. Fortunately, the principles I am about to reveal apply to both humans and other-than-humans.

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This is not meant to be a flippant answer. To attract the best, you have got to be the best. I have seen it time and again in my 40 years as a full time life coach (clergy), people attract what and whom they want to attract. So, if they are not being authentic in their own selves and how they present themselves to the world, they will attract people who also inauthentic. People who are genuinely happy, attract others who are genuinely happy. Persons who are usually positive in their outlook on life, usually attract positive events and persons to their lives.

One caveat here. Some folks are looking for others to fill the gaps they feel in their lives. You need to be careful here. For example, if you are positive, someone who is negative but wishes to be positive could be attracted to you. You have to take the usual precautions when developing a relationship with anyone. Not everyone is as they seem, of course, on the surface.

First, find the best in yourself. By making constant, regular connection with The Source of All That Is, through meditation, find your own bliss within. Find the best within yourself. Cultivate that best until it permeates everything you do and are. You are not cultivating this to attract others. You are cultivating the best within you that you may be at your happiest. If you are seeking to be the best for others, you will still be their prisoner. You won’t be free to be who you really are. You cannot, then, ever be at your best. Be your best for yourself.

Second, when you have found who you really are and are happy within, OR while you developing happiness within and finding out who you really are, project or beam that bliss into the world. Send out good vibrations. Smile a lot. Be happy.  Act the way you really want to be.

Those people who are like you, will be attracted to you. “Birds of a feather flock together,” is a saying full of truth. It is something like taking a driving route to get to a certain destination, to switch metaphors mid-paragraph. Along the way on that route, others will join you who have the same goal. This way of being and doing will help you develop the kinds of relationships you really want.

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