The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Happenings and things just are. We make the judgments about them. When you make those judgments, you make yourself happy or otherwise.

“They are just so radical,” said Olivia. She was slim and trim with a heathy tan and a pink scarf around her neck. “My daughter and her friends with their Goth look and piercings.”

“How old is Cyndi now?” I asked.

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“She is twenty-two and still dresses that way. I just can’t stand it. I’m at the point of saying she can’t come around anymore to negatively influence her younger sister and brother.”

Olivia had developed a red hue in her cheeks as she spoke with vehemence. It was obvious she was unhappy. I knew it was her judgments that were making her so.

“Cyndi is old enough to make up her own mind,” I said. “You are adding value judgments that affect you, but not her. It is you who are making you miserable.”

“What?” Olivia exploded. “What do you mean it is me who is making me miserable?”

“Suppose you did not know about the look and the piercings. Imagine that for a moment. Truly let go of your vision of your daughter dressed in her garb. What do you see?”

Composure was a few seconds coming. Olivia actually closed her eyes without prompting from me.

“I see her as she was when she was twelve, dressed in her Sunday best. She is so innocent and lovely.”

Then Olivia’s face darkened. Gone was the red blush replaced by storm clouds. “Oh, I see,” she said. “When I attach my feelings to her present way of dressing, then I get angry. I see what she was and who she has become – in my mind. Then I am unhappy”

“You need to give up your judgments,” I said. “When you make judgments about anything or anyone you are leading yourself down the path of unhappiness.”

I told Olivia, now that she was ready, that things, or people for that matter, are neither good nor bad – but we make them so. With our judgments we add good or bad to things.

We parted then. Olivia seemed in better spirits.

When you bring an end to judgment, you bring an end to negativity (positivity as well). When you accept people and things just as they are, you relieve yourself of the need for carrying opinion.

When you stop dumping assessment on everything, you are making the environment for happiness much more solid. You are the one who gives value to anything and anyone.

Another facet to this jewel of non-judgment is gratitude. Replace appraisal with grace. That is a true and lasting path to contentment.

Try this. Take any idea, person, happening, opinion. Detach yourself from it. First, and immediately, that will ease any tension you have around it. The happening or person is not you.

Second, you will see, also immediately, that it is just as it is. You add value to make it good or bad in your eyes.

Third, you will discover that you have a far greater feeling of contentment when you do not multiply it with judgment.

So, bring an end to judgment. Let be. Begin now. You will feel the better for it, beginning – now.

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The meaning of life and to be happy have something to do with karma. Karma is simply, yet completely, defined as “the effects of one’s actions.” Like 2 + 2 = 5. Or like when you open a window and the breeze blows in. Yes, I deliberately chose illustrations that are innocent. Because karma does not always bring bad consequences.

Further, karma is not punishment for something you have done or not done. You must see this. It is simply the effects of one’s actions. When something bad happens to you, it may be, I repeat, may be caused by something you did. But it is in no way punishment. Nor is it, then, reward for something you have done right. It is like blowing out the flame on a burning candle. You blow air out your lungs toward the flame and if the air volume is sufficient and forceful enough, the flame is extinguished.

That does not mean, however, that someone else cannot inflict pain upon you. Because that pain is inflicted does not necessarily mean you have done anything wrong. People are free. They will do what they want. Sometimes people do bad things. The hurt you feel from such events may not have been caused by what you did or did not do.

So, you have got to live with the consequences, effects, of what you do or say. That’s karma. But when you feel hurt it does not mean, absolutely, you have done anything to deserve that pain.

There are those who say that the effects of what we do can be carried over several or many lifetimes to be worked out. In other words, one could have done something so heinous in another life that the effects of that act are still being worked out in this life. And maybe it takes more than one lifetime to work them through.

What I say is this: You deserve the best. You are a child of The Creative Spirit; you are spirit yourself. As such all the best is yours, as long as you don’t stand in the way of it. When pain comes your way, as it does for all of us, you haven’t inescapably done something to cause it. Yes, it could be the working out of the effects of some past behavior of yours. Or, it could be that some free human being has caused this pain.

Don’t automatically assume you deserve hurt. DO assume the you deserve the best. The effects of your actions will work themselves out. But the affliction you feel at any moment is not inescapably of your doing.

The meaning of life, to be happy, has to do with accepting that you deserve the very best. Which you do. Believe it. Live it.

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