Suppose there was no outside source of punishment? We would only have the consequences of our actions and words. What happens to us because of what we say or do, is up to us. It is up to us because we have power over what we say and do. Suppose you are not paying attention to what you are doing and accidentally place your palm on a hot burner; you will get burned. The burn is not a punishment; it is a natural consequence of putting your palm in the wrong place.

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Whatever you do or say will have natural consequences. Your palm burned on the hot range top. But you immediately can vow within yourself never to be so careless again. The consequences of any action can immediately help you start over again. Start over at being a more careful person, a better acting person, a good person. You are not stuck in what caused the adverse consequences of any situation.

You have to get away from believing there is a force that punishes you for wrong actions. I believe that there is no such force. This is where you need to shift your belief system. Change your world-view.

I believe, and am not alone in this belief, that what we name God has made the Universe free. In other words, God does not worry about you doing anything in particular. Yes. Yes. Religions have taught us that God is keeping track of our every wrong move. Those religions have taught that we will be punished for our sins. But if the Universe is free, then actions are actions. In a free Universe there is no judgment, there is only natural consequences, like a burnt hand.

So, what do you do? You do what you believe needs doing in the moment. You are the one who needs to weigh the consequences against your contemplated action. Doing your best in this moment is all you ever need expect of yourself. Considering the consequences, you act as you think best. Will you make mistakes? Yes. Because of those mistakes, will there be negative consequences? Possibly. But you will have done nothing wrong or evil. You did the best you could. That is all you need ever ask of yourself. Did I do the best I could? If the answer is yes, then you are a good person. You can relax. You may have to live with consequences, but you need never feel or believe you are being punished.

Here is my definition of a “good person”: acting as best you can in this moment. The meaning of life, to be happy, is also acting as best you can in this moment.

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Shawna sort of bounced through the door to my office. Her blonde curls flouncing after her. She was maybe 27 or 28 at the time. Big smile on her facing while wearing a summer type dress of bright colors.

I thought to myself, she doesn’t present, that is, give off the vibe of having a problem. She settled herself primly in the interview chair. She chatted about the weather and how nice spring was moving along.

Then she came to her point. “Dr. Bob, I can’t figure out tomorrow. I know that sounds a bit strange. I think I’ve got this thing of living in the moment. But what if I want tomorrow to be different from today? How do I live in this moment and still make the next as I want it to be?”

I happen to have a ready answer for her. “You live now as if it will be your tomorrow. For your future is in your consciousness now. What you think and do, as you live in this moment, sets you up for what your tomorrow will be. Even sets you up for the next moment of your life.”

I had her think of the last time she was crying, either for sorrow or for joy. I showed that she just didn’t shut off the tears. They sort of had to run their course. Each moment one is in the act of crying, a certain emotional state is playing itself out. That emotional state cannot usually be turned off like a faucet. It takes time to subside.

Or like a runner who has just finished his race. He is gasping for breath and it takes time for his breathing to recover to normal.

But even more so in excited feelings. For in our consciousness tomorrow already exists. Now there is a full quantum insight to help explain this, but it was not necessary for Shawna. She wanted an answer to take with her within a few minutes, as most of us do. Suffice it to say that I showed that life is one continuous flow, though we can only really be in this moment. But whatever is happening in the flow of this moment, most often gets carried into the next.

So, be now what you want to be tomorrow. If you are down in this moment, resolve to change that by willing yourself, in this moment to be upbeat. If you are inattentive right now, decide right now to pay better attention and do so in this moment. If you are tired of mourning (feeling sad over a death) in this moment, determine to put away mourning right now. This kind of thing you do in each moment until your next moment, or your tomorrow, is the way you want it to be.

Shawna seemed to get the idea, especially after she suggested that is why kids can’t simply turn of the tears. They have worked themselves into a state and need time to change states.

I believe it is easy to make the connection between your consciousness and the future and being happy and knowing the meaning of your life. If you are not happy in this moment, you need to consciously do the things that will bring you happiness beginning now and continuing into the future. The future is already contained within your consciousness. You need only apply what you are aware of now with what you want to be aware in the next moment, or tomorrow.

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The sign on my door said, “The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy.” That sign has invited so many people and challenges through that door over the years. Jerry was no exception.

“I’ve just traumatized my kids for the umpteenth time.” He just blurted that out as he came through the door with the sign on it. He threw himself into the interview chair. He was 42, with a balding spot, black hair, grey eyes,  a little over-weight, but aren’t we all. His face was red from his exclamation, or some sort of exertion.

“I do it to my kids, our pets, my wife. I’ve got to stop. I blow up way out proportion to what is happening in the moment. I’ve got to stop.”

A clue came immediately to my mind – he said he blew up way out of proportion to what was happening in the moment. “Do you keep little things inside and then they gather together for one big burst of anger?” I asked. He acknowledged that is exactly the way he felt. He was nearer a solution on his own than he had any idea. “Was this way your father or mother acted when you were young?” I asked further.

“How did you know? My mother blow up about once a week. We kids learned to see the signs of the coming eruption and tried to stay out of her way. Never worked, though. One of us got a screaming-at before long.”

“So, you have, now, this long standing habit of doing the same. That habit has at least two parts: 1. The gathering together of little things that cause fiction within yourself. And 2. When the pressure becomes too great from all those accumulated little things, you blow up like a volcano.”

“Yeah, well, you nailed it, doc. But what do I do? I’ve tried to blast this bad habit, as you call it. It is so hard to change, thought. What do I do?”

“Don’t do anything with the bad habit,” I said. That brought a surprised look to Jerry’s face. “It is far easier to replace a bad habit with a good one. Then, eventually, the bad habit just dies away of its own disuse.” The look on Jerry’s face eased.

(Unless you are in the throes of true addiction – like with alcohol or drugs or gambling – the rest of what you have is bad habits. If you are addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, I respectfully suggestion you need to find a 12 step program like AA as soon as possible.)

“Jerry, first,” I said, “you got to develop the new good habit of confronting issues that irrate you right now, in this moment. In the calmest tones you can manage you’ve got to say what’s on your mind right then. Believe me, your family and pets, will be glad you did let them know right then. Because then there will be no need for the big-blow-up. Simply replace your old, bad habit with this new, good habit. Then your habit of blowing-up inappropriately will disappear over time.”

“Can’t be that simple, doc. Got to be more to it.”

“Think about it for a moment, right now. Run it through your mind and see what you feel.”

He did that. “Okay, Dr. Bob, I give it a real good try.”

Then I tried to imitate Yoda and said, “There is no try, there is do or not, only.” Jerry laughed as he went out through my office door with the sign that said, “The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy.” (I don’t know to this day if he laughed at my poor Yoda imitation, or the idea, or what.) Jerry and I happened to run into each other at the supermarket about two months later. He volunteered immediately that there were no more blow-ups at his house from him.

In your quest for the meaning of life, which I believe is to be happy, replace your bad habits with good habits. The bad will die of their own disused weight.

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