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One reason peace of mind is hard to have is because people simply have never been taught that it exists. The vast majority, say 97%, I believe, have never had the teaching that peace of mind is possible. They did not learn it in the home, nor in school, nor did they necessarily learn it from their religion.

A second reason people don’t know they can have peace of mind is because they make themselves too busy. If a person has a TV, or access to the Internet, they could spend every waking hour viewing. Then there are clubs, parties, groups in which people can participate. When there are children in a family, there can be a whole host of activities planned around or with those kids. People can simply get lost in the whirlwind.

A third reason is because many folks simply do not know what peace of mind means. This, then, puts them off of seeking it. No one they know experiences peace of mind and, therefore, does not demonstrate it. The idea is not passed around, so to speak. Indeed, more recipes are passed around than ideas about peace of mind.

Let’s start with a definition. Peace of mind feels like everything is ultimately OK. That no matter what is happening, you are all right. Very simple. Very deep.

So how do we find this “all right” feeling?

First, you decide you want to feel all right. Will you always feel that way, once achieved? No. I must be honest here and say that only the great saints and gurus achieve peace of mind as a total and constant state of being. The rest of us, including myself, need to actively decide on a regular, daily basis that we have peace of mind. In other words, when disturbing events or thoughts occur, we make that decision again.

Second, you must be in touch with Something greater than yourself. Through meditation of some sort, you place yourself in companionship with The Source of All That Is. (I say “meditation of some sort” because there are many forms. Choose one that fits you.) Jump out of your busy-ness for a period of time, virtually everyday, to communion deliberately with The Source of All That Is.

Third, you need to share your peace of mind with others. I do not mean you have to preach from a street corner. I mean that you must act as though you possess peace of mind. That usually means calm assertiveness. Based in the reality of your own peace, you share peace with those you encounter. If asked how you do that, you can share your method for having and holding peace.

This state of feeling all right, commonly known of as peace of mind, can be yours as you seek the meaning of life and happiness.

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I asked her how she was doing. “That’s just it, Dr. Bob. I just came from a weekend with my in-laws and I feel ridiculous. Where do I fit in?” She told me of how they, the in-laws, seemed to exclude her. How, at first, it seemed like her imagination. But no, as the weekend wore on, she realized they were deliberately being rude and belittling. She said she tried to understand why this was happening. Gerry said she always had problems with feeling like she did not fit. At first thought it was her own emotional tone that made her feel as she had that weekend. However, the more aware she became of her own feelings, the more she realized it was not all her.

Here was an authentic life challenge for Gerry for two reasons. One, she understood that because of her own feelings, actions and words by others could set off her own negative opinions of herself. Two, actions and words by others can be designed by them to maneuver a person in the direction of being an outcast. Both are real challenges, one coming from a person’s interior life and the other from exterior life.

What to do? How to help Gerry see that she fit no matter what was happening outside herself? And quickly done too. She appeared desperate.

“Gerry, do you understand the idea of ‘Universe’? That there is the whole, the entirety of creation?”

She allowed that she thought so. I asked if she believed she was a part of this whole.

“Well, yes, if I am in the Universe, then I must be part of it. What’s the point, Dr. Bob?”

“The point is that if you are part of this entirety we name the Universe, if you were missing from it, would it be the same?”

“Of course not,” she replied. I avow to you that at that precise moment, as she finished her reply, the color began to return to her face. She then made the intuitive leap. “I am part of the Universe, so … I fit no matter what.”

Here is where I needed to let her be in her thoughts and not interject more than was necessary. Sometimes doing that, interjecting more information than is needed, just gums up the works.

With a smile, Gerry said, “I never thought of it that way. Is it that simple? Yes, it is. And no one can ever take my place.” Her physical expression going out of the office was the complete opposite, I would say, of her way of moving when she first came in.

You must to understand that your life is a needed and integral part of the Universe in which you live. Your place can only be taken by you. No one can replace you or what you represent to the Universe. You often cannot easily see this. But it is there and part of the meaning of life. In that meaning, obviously, when you feel you fit, you will know happiness.

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