The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Marge came through the doorway of my office with her arms wrapped tightly around her as if she was clinging to someone.

She sat in the visitor’s chair never releasing her grip on herself. She seemed uptight, I thought, as though she can’t let go of something or someone. I didn’t realize how close I had guessed at the truth.

“How can I help, Marge?” I asked.

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She said, “I am just not happy. I can’t get past something to find happiness. I’ve tried meditation as you have instructed. I have given it patience and regularity. I seemed to be no farther ahead than when I first began. My mind is still muddled when I try to meditate. I am looking for answers.”

Well, that was a bit of baggage, wasn’t it?

She still never let go of her grasp of herself.

“Marge, did you realize that you are gripping yourself tightly with your arms?” I asked.

“What? Oh, I know. I don’t know why I do that.”

I took an arrogant guess by saying, “I think I know what you are doing. There is someone or something you can’t let go of. That clinging is keeping you from finding happiness.”

“I … I don’t know …,” Marge stammered.

I asked directly, “What are you holding on to?”

Marge looked at me with what might appear to be hate. She held that glare several seconds. Finally, her face began to soften by degrees. Obviously there was a real battle going on inside her.

“I can’t forgive my mother for dying. She was just sixty-five. In her last years she seemed not to care about herself anymore and ate and drank to what I believe was an early grave. She was never happy in all my memories of her.”

“You haven’t let her go, have you, Marge?”

She snapped that look of what might be hate at me again. Once again her face softened only by degrees. Her arms loosened from around her just a little for the time first since she hove into sight.

“She was such a comfort. But I can’t find any more comfort from her now that she is passed.”

“You can’t cling to a ghost, Marge. Give her up,” I said.

We sat in silence for a minute or so. During that time, as if in a slow motion movie, Marge released her grip upon herself. Her hands drifted as autumn leafs falling from trees, it seemed, into her lap. Peace came to reside in her face.

I broke the silence by saying, “Now follow the techniques you have been taught to discover happiness for yourself. I think you will have a better time of it now.”

She rose to depart and shook my hand and gave me a smile that expressed her gratitude, though she was obvious moved to speechlessness.

Here is a short course in finding and maintaining happiness. Develop a life of meditation or prayer. I believe there is only one way to contact the Source of All There Is and that is through a meditative connection with the Source.

Then maintain that linkage through regular use of the meditative arts. Notice, please, I used the plural, “arts.” There are many ways to meditate so find one that fits you best. You may even want to experiment to find one that is best for you.

In that connection with the Source, you will find that you are totally and unconditionally accepted. There is your happiness. For there is nothing greater or finer than being completely and fundamentally accepted.

When you have found that happiness that passes understanding, you will have found the meaning of your life, I believe. Your meaning is to be happy.

That happiness, then, is played out in experience in the world. Your life-purpose is to experience. You experience by being in relationship to all you encounter – be that person, animal or thing.

Marge had learned all these techniques and ideas through her time in the community I lead. She was just so tied up in mental ropes because she could not release her mother.

When you cling too tightly to anything or anyone, you will not be as happy as you will without those attachments. Detach yourself. That is, do not cling so tightly that you stifle any other relationship – like with the Source of All There Is.

Start today to detach yourself from your “clinging” and develop a solid and permanent relationship with the Source of All That Is through the meditative arts.

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Claire came bounding into my office. She was just nineteen and still had the effervescence of youth. Her red curls framed her face in a cute way. She wore a modest skirt and blouse.

“What’s up, Claire?” I asked.

“I want to be happier,” she said. I had not realized she was unhappy, or at least not as happy as she wanted to be.

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She had gotten right to the point so I followed her example and got right down to cases as well. “Do you really want to be happy?”

“What a silly question, Dr. Bob. Of course I want to be happy. But why do you ask?”

“I ask, Claire, because many people protest that they want to be happy. But when it comes to doing the things that lead to happiness, they almost stop in their tracks and quit looking for happiness.”

“Why do they do that?” Claire asked.

“They do that because they discover it is far easier to deal with the devil they have, than to conquer devils they didn’t know they had,” I said. “They say they want to be happy but they are content to be stuck where they are. How about you?”

Claire thought for a few seconds. “What devils are we talking about?” she asked.

“I am speaking of the tasks of patience and effort. To be happy on a long term and deep basis you need to develop a relationship with The All There Is. That association is not difficult to execute but it does take effort and it takes patience.”

“But why do I need a relationship with The All There Is? I just want to be happy.”

I asked, “Do you want to be content or happy? Contentedness is just a decision away. You decide you are satisfied with yourself just as you are. Happiness means you want to go beyond your present self and discover your greater self – in relationship to The All There Is. Where are you, Claire?”

Again she thought for a few seconds and then said, “I want to discover my greater self. So I need, then, a bond with The All There Is.”

“You really want to be happy,” I said. “Let me lead us in a guided meditation to begin the transition to true and deep happiness.”

In that guided meditation I led us to the center of the Universe, or the heart of The All There Is. There I gave her the idea that she was accepted and loved just as she was with no conditions or strings. I had her discover for herself the golden light of unconditional love and acceptance.

In that love and acceptance is the greatest of happinesses. Why? Because there is no greater feeling than being truly and deeply accepted. These feelings of being accepted and loved are the seat of true and lasting happiness.

I brought Claire back into the present time and space. I asked her how she felt.

“I feel a deep peace and well-being. But I expected I would feel very bubbly, even giggly, when I found happiness. Right now it is more peace and well-being.”

I spoke further about how the material world cannot supply such feelings of well-being. Possessions and achievements may well be important in life. But they cannot compare to true happiness as found in an affinity with the True Love of The All There Is.

Things and relationships change or disappear with time and circumstances. Happiness as found in kinship with The All There Is, is everlasting.

“What will you do now, Claire?” I asked.

“I will learn to be constant in meditation and patience as time goes along. I really want to maintain this feeling that I have experienced with you today.”

I suggested to her that she find material on how to meditate as soon as she could, material that fit her needs. She said she would. Claire then bounded out of the office in the same manner as she had entered.

I urge you, dear reader, to begin in this moment to start developing your affinity with The All There Is. You do that through the meditative arts. Begin today to find that unconditional love that holds you. You will be happy.

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Being transparent within yourself will enhance and strengthen your own happiness. Being transparent within your relationships will help you spread happiness.

It is essential that you try to be transparent within yourself. You cannot hide from yourself forever. You make mistakes just as well as the next person. (I make mistakes just as surely as you do.)

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To try to deceive yourself about those mistakes is foolish. Even if you succeed in repressing those mistakes, they will find you out in such things as anxiety or even lower back pain.

To repress feelings caused by hidden mistakes is like stuffing a plastic garbage bag. You can stuff and stuff but eventually the bag will become too full and burst. When it does burst, you will have garbage all over yourself.

The most important place where it is not a good idea to be opaque is in your relationship is with The All There Is (Tathis). As you make contact with and develop a connection between yourself and Tathis, where you find your meaning, which is to be happy, when you try to keep mistakes from Tathis, you mess up that connection.

(Tathis is a word I coined to remove as much baggage as possible from the term “God.” It is a combination of the first letter of The, the first letter of All, the first two letters of There, and the entire word Is. It is pronounced with a long “a” and the te word “this.” I hope you can see that Tathis is a non-baggage participant here.)

In your kinship with Tathis you need to be as transparent as you can be. This is for your own sake, not for the sake of Tathis. Tathis “knows” all there is to know about you anyway. So hiding yourself in any form from Tathis is counterproductive. You cut yourself off.

Notice please that “you cut yourself off.” Tathis is always there, living in the background so to speak, waiting for you to remove your own self-imposed barrier to Tathis. It is you who have distanced yourself from Tathis.

When you go seeking happiness and meaning, you make a connection with Tathis. This linkage is strengthened and expanded over time through the meditative arts. In some form of prayer and or meditation, which suits you, you reinforce this kinship with Tathis on a regular basis.

In that meditation you find that you are completely accepted. Which means that you can be completely transparent with Tathis. You cannot hide anything anyway. So why not be completely transparent? You will be the better for it. I know.

When you bare your spirit in that relationship with The All There Is, you have come clean. It is so good to have completely let it all go. You need hide nothing anymore. (You cannot hide anything, anyway.)

What a great feeling it is to have become completely transparent and still be totally and unconditionally accepted by Tathis. It is completely liberating. It is part of the bliss you can feel in that relationship with Tathis.

But then there is more – you can then be more transparent with other humans in your relationship circle.

I am not saying that you must be completely transparent. Not everyone is going to accept you just as you if you reveal everything. There are those who consider it their duty to criticize others. Revealing yourself to them in too big a way is a mistake.

So you cautiously reveal yourself, a little at a time. See how those around you react or do not react. See who you can trust. You will find a few who you can trust totally with who you really are. These are the ones you need to build long term relationships with.

They need also to trust you when they become transparent to you. You need to keep their confidences. You need to try to accept them just as they are as well.

Truly you may not be able to keep all confidences. You may not be able to accept everyone just as they are. These folks you may need to break off with or distance yourself from. You cannot be super-human in your associations. You need not expect yourself to be.

But so far as is possible and good, try to be transparent within yourself, with Tathis, within your affinities with friends and relatives, and allow others to be transparent with you.

This transparency, all around, will help you have greater happiness and meaning. Begin now to be more transparent.

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One Person Can Change The World