The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

What does envy have to do with meaning in life and happiness? When you are envious of another person’s accomplishments or possessions, you diminish your own joy and acceptance.

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When you look at someone else’s success and are envious, you are thinking of yourself as less than you are. They must be better than you because they have X. Or they must be better than you because they have accomplished Y.

First, you need to see yourself as complete just as you are. When you believe that you are less than someone else, for any reason, you have diminished yourself in your own eyes. This serves no good purpose.

You are perfect just the way you are. You are an offspring of the God/Universe. You are no less than the galaxies and the waters of this world. You cannot and need not be made better by becoming like someone else. You cannot and need not be made better by accomplishing as someone else has done.

Second, envy has caused you to notice. Here is where you can turn the envy-challenge to the positive. You have recognized some trait or accomplishment in another that you might like to have.

Get this now. You see yourself as whole as you are. You do not need to be or do anything more. But the natural human emotion of envy has had you remark in yourself about another’s trait or achievement. You want that, as opposed to need that. Do you feel the difference?

Turn that want into action. Develop yourself so that what you have observed in another, that you want, becomes something to work toward.

Here is an example from my own life. I want to be like the Dalai Lama is described to be. It is said that he exudes compassion toward everyone and everything. I want that for myself.

So I can work toward that. I do not have it. I do not need that compassion to be complete within myself. I do not need it to be happier or have more meaning in my life. However, I envy his compassion and the way he treats all people.

But this article is about you, not me. What have you seen in another that you would like to have for yourself? Perhaps it is a certain level of friendliness that you find attractive in the other person. Beginning from the safe place of happiness already within yourself, set out to develop that level of friendliness within yourself. You are demonstrating a want not a need.

You are complete within already so you do not need more friendliness. But you might like some more so you try to emulate the person who is as friendly as you would like to be.

Perhaps you see that another person has developed a certain level of financial freedom that you would like to have for yourself. Not in desperation but out of a yen for that amount of income, you begin to discover how the other person does it.

In the case of income it may be that you are not making what you need. So you try to discover through the other person just what it is she or he does to make the income he or she seems to have.

Always begin from a place of happiness and meaning. Then you mirror what another is doing or being. Working from the inside out you never need to make envy a negative emotion. Positive envy can lead you to adopt ways of doing and being that you want to do or be. You will reinforce your own meaning and happiness.

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Some folks don’t want you to be happy.

Corrin arrived at my door completely overcome with sobbing and tears.

I, of course, got her seated and offered her tissues. “What in God’s name is wrong?” I asked her as gently yet firmly as possible.

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She held up a hand indicating that I needed to wait. After many moments she had calmed herself enough to be able to talk.

“Dr. Bob, I just had lunch with someone who I had thought was my best friend. She just got finished hollering about how self-centered I am because I am happy. She said I was completely self-absorbed with my own happiness. I was, I am devastated.”

“Wow, Corrin,” I said, “where did she get such an idea?”

Corrin dissolved into tears once again. Huge sobs such that I thought she might pass out. Once again, when she was able to speak again, she said, “You think so too.”

“No, I don’t Corrin. I merely meant what gave her the right to make such a judgment on you. I have never seen you self-absorbed or self-centered. If anything, you are one of the most caring persons in our coaching community.”

She gave me a weak smile and composed herself further.

I went on. “I think your supposed best friend for so many years has her own issues. What’s been happening in her life? Do you know?

Corrin told me of all the sadness that her friend was experiencing. Then Corrin said, “Oh, I think I see, Dr. Bob. She is so absorbed in her own problems that she thinks I am self-centered because I am happy when she is sad.”

“I think that’s it, Corrin.” I went on to explain to her that people, for example, who see others as self confident feel that the self confident ones are being arrogant. In this case, Corrin’s friend could not stand to see her happy, because she was terribly unhappy. So Corrin’s friend condemned Corrin as being selfish and self-absorbed.

Thus it will always be, I am afraid. When you find your happiness as the meaning of life, there will always be people who find you self-absorbed or self-centered. They cannot fathom how you can be happy within yourself no matter what. That’s where you can be when you practice happiness.

Some others will always feel that if they are sad, then you must be sad as well. And if you do not noticed their sadness or grief in the way they think you ought to, they will think you are self-absorbed. In some ways you need to expect this behavior. It still may be shocking if you are confronted with it. But you need to remember that the feeling others have about you is their problem.

Find the meaning of life, which is happiness, through meditation. Develop it with a high degree of efficacy within yourself. When sadness knocks at your door, in whatever form, you will be equipped to deal with it and still remain happy. Because you do not buy into others’ problems, they might think you selfish.

But when you continually try to spread happiness and meaning in your world by doing everything in your power to build up others and the world, you are never being selfish or self-absorbed. Never.

Making this world a better place to live for all is the natural outflow of inward happiness.

What to do if you run into this kind of mistaken identity? Try to be as gracious as possible, though I know that will sometimes be extremely difficult. Remember it is the person accusing you of a self-absorption who has the problem. Try to be compassionate.

Then detach yourself from the hurt the other is trying to inflict. Remember, you are being who you really are when you express your happiness. Remember, rehearse what you are trying to do as you beam your bliss into the world – build up the world and all who inhabit it.

Corrin had thoroughly dried her eyes as I was finishing up with my explanation. I asked how she felt.

“I feel much better. Thanks for your time and explanation. I will try to seek my friend out in several days and see if she has found her way back to happiness. I know we can still be friends once we understand each other again.”

She rose and shook my hand and left the office.

Such it can be in your life when you find and maintain your own meaning in life, which is to be happy.

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What are the basics of the meaning of life and happiness? First, understand that I believe that happiness is the meaning of life. To understand that you then need these three: connect with the Grand Consciousness, change your thoughts thereby, beam your bliss into the world.

Happiness Is the Meaning of Life.

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What is the one thing that the vast majority of people in the world look for in life? Happiness. Families are developed, food and shelter is earned, jobs are pursue to feed and shelter families. All this is done so that folks will be happy. They will live their definition of what makes them happy.

The problem can be that these exterior things and events do not make for happiness. Why? They change. They can be taken away. When they change for the worse, unhappiness, defined by the person suffering through the change, results. When a family member dies, especially a son or daughter, heartache is the result.

Most people spend their entire lives chasing happiness. Often running into the brick wall of unhappiness. What’s to be done?

Decide You Are Going to Be Happy.

That’s all there is to this paragraph. Decide you are going to be happy. Then, following the steps below, decide you are happy.

Connect with the Divine Consciousness.

The Divine Consciousness is the only “person” who will not, possibly, bring you unhappiness. This All-Pervasive Spirit is entirely out for your good. It will never make any demands on you. The Supreme Spirit never demands that you worship It. It does not need your worship. It only asks that you let the Supreme Spirit love you.

The God/Universe accepts you and your life just as you are. You connect with this unconditional love and total acceptance through meditation. A way to begin, during meditation, is to see a golden beam of light flooding your spirit. This beam comes to you from the All-Pervasive Spirit. Allow it to bathe your spirit and to help you feel loved and accepted. Over time you will find the deep, deep happiness of being loved and accepted.

Change Your Thoughts.

When you have truly accepted that you are accepted and accepted that you are loved unconditionally, you have the power to change your thoughts. Change them to the positive. Yes, it takes effort. But now you have the power to add to your thought-resume all the positives you can come up with.

Changed thoughts are the key to installing happiness in your life. Yes, you will continue to have negative thoughts. We cannot control what thoughts come into our heads. But we do have control over what thoughts we entertain. Let the negative thoughts go by replacing them with positive ones.

Beam Your Bliss Into The World.

This last basic step is most important. Do not neglect it. When you have found your happiness inside, some name it bliss, you have got to beam that bliss to the outside.

In other words, you have got to practice your happiness in the physical world. You do that through altruism and kindness. Simply do your best to build up everything and everyone you encounter.

As you do this, the happiness and meaning of your world cannot help but increase.

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