The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

The meaning of life, I believe, is to be happy. Many people seem to believe that if they just find the right person, maybe “Mr. Goodbar,” or Ms. Goodbar, they will be happy. That the other person will complete them or make them feel whole. This is a very prevalent romantic notion among people looking for love.

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Unfortunately, this is a self-imposed trap of no good consequence. It is a trap because you are complete within yourself right now, as you are. No one else can make you happy. You are the only person who can fulfill your basic spiritual needs. Spiritual needs upon which every other need is based. When you chase after someone to make you whole, you have missed the point of your life altogether.

It is certainly appropriate for you to fall in love with someone else. It is further advantageous for you two, then, to make a life together that is happy and positive. But that other person cannot fulfill you. You do that within yourself.

So, here are three tips to help you avoid the self-inflicted trap of looking for Mr. or Ms. Goodbar.

Tip One, find the real seat of happiness within yourself. There are many, many people who believe, literally, that if they have the right car, the right address, the right significant other, they will be fulfilled. Nothing wrong with having good things and a happy relationship. But when a person in that situation stops and looks at his or her life, they will discover how empty it really is.

It is empty because we are already whole within ourselves. All you will ever need is already within you. When you cut yourself off from that treasure within, no matter your other things and people, you will not feel complete. When you look outside yourself for wholeness, you are denying what you are. When you deny yourself, you will forever feel incomplete, un-whole.

Tip Two, look for someone, then, who can be a companion on the road of life. Please see what I think is a major distinction here: one who completes you, and one who accompanies you. Perfectly fine to have found yourself within and then look for a companion for the path you wish to take. If you think you need someone to walk that road as one who carries you on their back, as in that one completing you, you will never walk the path you really need to travel. But when you find a companion, you both can walk that road in a manner that befits each of you individually. In other words, you will be self-fulfilling your own destiny. Remember, no one can make you happy. No one can give meaning to your life except you.

Tip Three, dwell comfortably with yourself. How many times have you seen someone at loose ends because they have no self-direction. Lost they always appear to be. Once again with feeling: No one can live your life for you. So, when you have learned to be comfortable with yourself, you will find a companion to walk the road with you. Each of you helping the other fulfill their own prophesy. That is what it means to be a companion to someone else. You are each, first, comfortable with yourself. You are in such a stable condition yourself that you enjoy accompanying another on their road of life.

You become comfortable by truly discovering who you are in this moment. You set aside all hurtful memories, you have ceased to worry about tomorrow. Or you are on the path to accomplishing these ends. You live as complete as is possible for you in this time of your life, that you can, then, be with another and help them on their path.

To be happy is the meaning of life. One of the ways you execute that meaning and happiness is by depending on yourself to be comfortable with you.

And you avoid being trapped by thinking you need another to make you complete by finding, looking, and dwelling with yourself as complete already.

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I believe the meaning of life is to be happy. But the idea of “happy” covers so much ground, both interiorly and exteriorly. One specific way to be happy is to develop a larger and better sense of your own wholeness. A feeling that you are complete. When you have this feeling, you are “naturally” happier because you need not strive after anything. Moreover, when you feel whole within yourself, you need not depend on anyone else to complete you.

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So, here are three ways you can have a greater wholeness.

Way One, connect with the Universe. It is called “universe” for this reason: it is complete; there is no separation in the Universe. When you find yourself fitting in that Universe as if you belonged, you will know wholeness within your soul. The Universe is a Unity, a Singularity. When you connect to this Unity, you will know better your own unity.

How do you connect? By being regularly in prayer or meditation. Each of these, prayer and meditation, has many forms. As many teachers and teachings as there are, you certainly can find one or more that fits you well.

Search and try as many as you need till you find one method that is easy and almost casual for you to use. Use the form of meditation or prayer that you adopt to put you in touch with the Universe. When you feel connected in this manner, you will feel more completeness.

Way Two, think yourself into wholeness by making no distinction between yourself and any other sentient beings. Perhaps the greatest problem in the world today is a feeling of separation from other beings. You need not tackle the world problem. But you can make a difference in your own life and the life of all others with whom you make contact.

If we live in a Unity called the Universe, then we are all part of a Greater Whole. When we speak of this Greater Whole, we are explaining to ourselves that we are not separate. We, all together, are a Unity. Therefore, no one needs feel that they are detached. When you feel yourself as part of The Singularity, you know that wholeness within. It reinforces the completeness that you have found with your connection to the Universe.

Way Three, live as if you are complete. A third way to understand your completeness is to think about all you do and say as if you were connected to everything else. This can take the form of everything from recycling waste to making sure your significant other is as comfortable as possible.

Why live this way? When a person practices what they need to accomplish in their lives, over time, what they need to accomplish will be enhanced within themselves. If, for example, you wish to lift 200 pounds off the floor, you will need to train and practice for that. Literally, in this case, you will improve your prowess over time. Just so with anything internal that you wish to accomplish. Over time and practice you will gain prowess.

There you have it: three ways to greater wholeness: connect, think, live. Obviously, then, having accomplished this completeness, you will be that much closer to happiness, which is the meaning of life.

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The Meaning of Life, To Be Happy and A Single Fantastic Energy

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Have you ever felt so fatigued that you just wanted to sit and vegetate? Or have you been so mentally and spiritually exhausted that all you wanted to do was sleep? I suspect we have all been there at one time or another. I know I have.

How have I received motivation again? And what does this have to do with the meaning of life which is to be happy?

Here is the answer. When one is in contact with The All, one finds happiness within. Internal feelings are what drive us all. You get into and maintain contact with The Source of All That Is through meditation or prayer. When you are in contact you find that you are loved unconditionally by this Source. When you know you are loved unconditionally, you realize that you are accepted just as you are. When you have discovered this acceptance, you find yourself happy on the inside. Why happy? Because you know you are accepted and loved just as you are.

All burdens are then lifted from your soul. All supposed obligations to a deity are banished as well. When you feel your spirituality as pure, by way of pure unconditional love, you have “no choice.” You are happy. When you have this happiness within, you have found the meaning of your life. That meaning is simply to be happy; to experience happiness in your life. From this internal happiness you do in the world. You do in the world with joy.

But what is this Source of All That Is? Strangely enough it is a single Energy that animates all of us. When you contact your inner happiness by links with The Source of All There Is, you have forged a link from yourself to The Source.

Quantum physics show us that all is energy. While in contact with The Source, you are resonating with The Vibration of The Source. This is where you personal energy comes from. Yes, we burn calories to produce muscle movement and thinking prowess.  But unless there is a link between our beings and The Being, even the energy we have is wasted. Unless you allow The Energy to vibrate within your life, resonate in your life, fuel from food sits idle and empty.

This Fantastic Energy animates all of life. If you find yourself fatigued almost to the point of collapse, harken back to your Source. There is more energy there than you can ever use. But more than that, there is inspiration in that Ever-vibrating Energy to animate you. To help you get up off you duff and do something that reinforces your internal happiness and meaning of life.

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