The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

I have helped many couples to set up budgets as part of pre-marriage consultation. They were usually very good at suggesting amounts or percentages for food, rent or house payment, entertainment, etc. Where they were usually neglectful was in the budget item of giving. Most couples never even mention it on their own. These were not ill-meaning people. They simply had never given any thought to their happiness in regards to others.

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What I then tried to show them was that they needed to give. They were rightfully celebrating their own up-coming marriage. They simply were missing another angle whereby they could increase their happiness as individuals and as a couple. They needed also to celebrate others.

It is a fine thing to celebrate one’s own life and the living of it. You have every right to do so. As a matter of fact, if you are not celebrating your own life, then you have missed a very important opportunity to increase your own happiness. But if you only fete your own life, always, you have missed one of the greatest ways to be happy – through and by giving.

Being charitable makes you happier. I seldom am led to say this, but I will here. I guarantee that giving some of your time or treasure, will make you feel happier. I guarantee it.

You do not have to give away your money. You can give volunteer hours in all kinds of agencies that help those less fortunate. But if that is not your way of giving, then you can give kindness. Deliberately being kind to another may sound calculating. But when you do n gesture of kindness to another, even if you have to think about, you will be adding happiness points in your well-being ledger.

Deliberately setting out to be kind may indeed be calculating. But doing it over time, and discovering the benefits of giving, you will soon find it so enriching that giving of yourself will become a habit that is no longer calculating, but is spontaneous. You well feel so good about yourself that you will develop a disposition to keep feeling good about yourself. Feeling good about yourself by celebrating others in various ways becomes a kind of positive addiction.

Kindness has been studied. Those who do these studies suggest that those who celebrate others have a very good chance of activating an extra surge of endorphins in their brains. Endorphin flow within your brain gives you a bit of an emotional high that can become a positive addiction.
Thankfully I do NOT have to prove this to you. You prove it, or not, to yourself. You can experiment yourself and what celebrating others will do for you.

Try it; you’ll like it.

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People search high and wide for meaning in their lives. Are you one of them? There is a very simple method for increasing the meaning in your life. Walk toward the truth. Every day make an advance on verity. All truth is already contained within you. Follow that path to perfection.

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When I speak of perfection I do not mean that you become perfect – never making mistake. I mean that you pursue a place within yourself, where everything makes perfect sense. Will this happen all the time as you are walking toward truth? No. But with practice and time, you will come closer and closer to the reality of the meaning of life for you.
Truth is ambiguous. By that I mean that my truth is probably not your truth. So, you have to be mindful that everyone looks at authenticity as they see it. In other words, two of us, you and me, can look at a computer video and quite possibly get two different, but valid, interpretations of the single video. You begin with your own perspective on all things. I begin with my own vision of the way things are.

Each of us, then, must work for his or her own truth that comes through our unique perspectives. This does not make you or me better than someone else. When you “see” a truth that is real to you, as you walk the path of veracity, you may claim it for yourself. But because you have seen a truth that is different from someone else, does not make your rank in the universe better than someone else’s. You need to understand that everyone’s truth may a little or a lot different that yours.

Besides, truth changes. Yipes. If truth changes, what’s the sense of chasing after it? Hold on there. Truth changes because you change. You do not have the same mind now that you had ten years ago. Everyone’s perspective changes according to how one interprets the events that occur in one’s life.

Take your emotional strength as an example. As a child you may have felt yourself powerless. Everyone was bigger and stronger and knew more than you. You lived with that powerlessness as your truth. But when you become an adult, you realized that you have your own strengths.  You may have changed your outlook on yourself. As an adult you have more physical strength than when you were a child. Not everyone is bigger. You know more about some subjects because of your study and experiences, than those of your immediate circle of friends and family.

Truth does change – because of your present day view. Your present day view may be quite different than it was last month.
But to walk towards the truth means you see what is best for you right now. Be prepared to modify your views, but constantly amble down the path of veracity. You will find meaning for your life even if you do nothing more than what helps you discover the validity of your life from your own point of view. From your own perception of validity you grow closer and close to Truth. As you grow closer to Truth, you will learn more of the meaning of you life. It almost just comes to you. You will gain a clearer and clearer vision of who you are. As you discover who you are, you will want to be the best version of yourself that you can. That leads, then, to continued strolling down the path of truth.

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