The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

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Terra came through the door of my office with a confused look on her face. She was 37 with three kids and a husband. Dressed casually and comfortably. Brunette.  About 5′ 5″.

I said, “Please, have a seat.” When she had done so, I continued, “You look confused.”

“I am, Dr. Bob. It doesn’t seem like I can shift, mentally, into second gear or more, any more.” She said her patterns of living and reacting were all the same. Mostly stuff she learned as she was growing up. Her kids, she said, who were teens, often complained about how stuck she seemed to be. No new ideas, no trying anything new, not even cooking anything new and different.

So, I launched into the usual pattern, myself, of seeing if she had any trauma that might associate itself with mental inflexibility. We could discover none. I then asked how her religious life was going.

“Oh, I do all the right things, say all the right prayers, attend church almost every Sunday. Feel guilty when I don’t attend. Worry about my husband and kids going to hell when they die.”

“Do you worry about going to hell?” I asked.

“No, no, I’ve got that all taken care of. I was saved when I was ten. Been sure of heaven ever since.”

“I think you have what I call a ‘molded mind’.” Of course, that struck her as strange and humorous at the same time. She wanted to know what I meant. I told her I thought her mind had been poured into a mold like is used for gelatin. Terra had allowed her mind to set in the pattern and shape of that mold. And that’s all she had. Her ideas had hardened into dogmas. Dogmas only last a short time, especially in this age when the Internet and other factors more than doubles knowledge every six months or less. Basically, she followed her religion so closely that she had made her mind ossify, harden. She seemed so inflexible in mental activity because she could not see the dogmatic state she occupied. “It is God’s way, or the highway,” is the fashion in which some put it. Sometimes they are trying to be funny; sometimes they are declaring a doctrine. And one has to be very careful with doctrines and dogmas. While not being watched carefully, they often turn into lies made of concrete molded into certain templates. Into these templates everything else must fit: from family life to the use of recipes.

Startled, Terra blurted, “How can I become un-ossified?”
“You’ve got to find the meaning of your life. The meaning of your life is to be happy. Happiness never allows the status quo to remain in terms of our relationship to the world. You’ve got to break the pattern and the mold. You do that by making contact with God.”

“But I pray every day,” she protested. “Are they the same prayers?” I asked. She went pale. “Yes, they are exactly the same and have been for as long as I can remember.”

“Terra, you need new prayers. Better yet, you need spontaneous prayers. You need to pray as if everything is new everyday, because it is. When you meet God in your prayers, you will see that God’s love is ever the same, but God’s Universe is ever changing.”

“How do I do that?” she asked.

“Simply by sitting quietly and letting your thoughts flow. When the time comes in your quiet time, direct your thoughts to the specific concerns you have at that moment. Eventually, after some weeks or months of practice, you’ll be free of the tyranny of ossification. You’ll be mentally limber and supple again. It is frightening at first. But it becomes less so as you free yourself, bit by bit, from religious habits that no longer serve.”

Never let your mind and/or spirit settle into the pattern of some worn-out mold, like ancient gelatin. The meaning of life is to be happy, part of which is finding life new every new day.

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