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The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy and God I Just Want Happiness in My Life (0079)

Saturday, February 27th, 2010

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Sanchez came through the office door. He was a migrant laborer who had been stopping and working every summer in the area for more years than I can remember. He came regularly to a coaching association I ran. We were acquainted but little more. As you can imagine his skin was deeply tanned and weathered from years of outdoors labor. He was cheerful and always pleasant. I was told he was a hard and dedicated worker, sending money home all the time.

“What’s up, amigo?” I said. Sanchez accepted my very poor Spanish with an indulgent half smile.

“Oh, God, I just want happiness in my life.” He came straight to his point. “I know happiness is there. But I can’t find it.” His English, on the other hand, was excellent. “Doc, it ought to be easy. I just want happiness in my life.”

We talked to see if there were any unusual impediments to Sanchez having happiness in his life. There were none that we could, together, discover. So, I got right done to business.

“Do you pray?” I asked him. Yes, I know this is a very personal question for a man. But there is no sense in beating around the bush if someone comes, male or female, for an answer. They don’t want a long series of sessions for psychoanalysis. (Nothing wrong with psychoanalysis.) They want to walk out of the office with a way to change their lives.

He told me he did pray, almost every day. I told him that he then had the beginnings of finding happiness in his life. He simply needed to turn the prayer time into rumination-time. (The term rumination-time caught his attention, as it was meant to.) He needed to start this time by saying just what he said to me, “God, I just want happiness in my life.” Then, as if praying, let his mind think about what happiness would mean in his life. (If you think this is a form a meditation, you are correct. But Sanchez didn’t need to be bothered with that idea.)

We tried it, silently, in the office. I had him ruminate for about 5 minutes. I asked him to gently come back into the room. “What happened?”

He said, “I found that I already had lots of happiness in my wife and kids. That my work was honorable. Just before you called me back, I realized I already had some happiness in my life. I just had not seen it before.”

I told him to do this kind of ruminating at least five times a week for at least five minutes each time. I reminded him that God was the one he was contacting. It was in God and through God that he would find his happiness.

Too simply? You tell me. It worked for Sanchez. I believe it will work for you.

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The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy and Your Life and Happiness Are in Your Hands (0078)

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

Beginning with this post and continuing, The Meaning of Life: To Be Happy shall have both video and text for you to enjoy. As always comments, questions, concerns are welcome and invited.

Sitting in a doctor’s office, waiting for your appointment, can sometimes be very interesting. Of course, you can people-watch as long as you are not too obvious about it. But the conversations that arise are often the most interesting. All kinds of subjects come up and you get to hear what others are thinking, their prejudices, their fantasies, etc.

Being in the “happiness business,” the conversations that attract most of my attention are the ones about, you guessed it, happiness. Often the word “happiness” is not even used. But that’s what the conversation is about, really.

So and so did such and such and now I am broke. He lost every spare nickel we had playing poker with his buddies. Now we are broke. Did you hear that name and name is breaking up with her husband?  I feel and can’t get up anymore. This illness is making me so depressed. I wish there was a pill to simply cure it. I fell so useless when he leaves, even though he is 35 and ought to be on his own.

Now, to be sure, some happenings are truly painful. Divorce, illness, debt are some of those. But when people pin their happiness on these exterior events, they have misplaced their joy.

So many folks rely on external situations to define their happiness. Surely negative events can have a negative effect on us. But happiness does not come from the outside. When we give over control of our happiness to people and events outside ourselves, we miss the point of living free.

Who is it that controls your mind and spirit? Please, I humbly ask you to think well before you answer that question. You might be surprised at the percentage of people who think others have control of their spirits and minds. Sometimes religion even encourages people to think that someone evil has command.

But it is you who has power over your own thinking and being. Yes, others may well have some control over your finances, how you are treated in a health crisis, how you are cared for in a relationship, and so on. No one but you, however, has control over your thoughts.

You have got to take that responsibility yourself. The minute you give over control of your spirit to another, you have given up the right to your own happiness. Don’t do that. Claim your right to be happy, no matter what is happening outside of your thoughts and spirit.

Your life and your happiness are in your own hands. Work on your happiness and your life will follow. How do you gain control of your happiness? You talk to yourself; that’s one way. The internal conversation that you carry on with yourself determines how you see the world. If your internal conversation is negative, your world will be negative. When your internal conversation is positive, you internal life will be positive. Which means happy.

How do you get in on the interior chat? You listen. Yes, it’s that simple. Stop and listen. What are you saying to yourself? Damaging self-talk is, obviously, self-destructive. Favorable self talk is, obviously, self-constructive. Who tells you what to say to you? You do. You have your own happiness in your own hands.

Start right now, to monitor your self-talk. Take just 30 seconds when you finishing watching this video or reading the text, and listen to what you are saying about yourself. Be sure to complete that 30 second visit with yourself by saying something positive about you.

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The Mean of Life: To be Happy and All Deserve Happiness

Saturday, February 13th, 2010

All Deserve Happiness

The meaning of life, to be happy, is available to all. Many times while observing the conversations on Twitter, I come across people who say they do not deserve happiness. By fuzzy logic I say, we all deserve happiness or none of us does.

Can you really say that some one does not deserves happiness? (Watch out, now, I switched directions while you weren’t looking.) Can anyone in their right mind say that some other person does not deserve happiness? No. No one can say that, because no one knows the exact circumstances that led that person to where he or she is right now. Sure, sure, we may dislike the person, terribly dislike them, even hate them. But any reasonable person will know that you cannot say the other does not deserve happiness.

Why can’t that be said? Because then the same may be said about you. For example, I know that I have psychological enemies. There are people who do not like me or what I say. Some will be vehemently opposed. But just because they dislike me does not mean they can claim that I do not deserve happiness. Moreover, they cannot keep me from being happy on the inside, at the core of my spirit, or being. This is where happiness actually and truly resides.

Look at Nelson Mandela: 27 years imprisoned by an opposing government. Yet, when freed from prison he lead a movement of reconciliation. No one is capable of such magnanimity without happiness at the core of their being. An oppressive government sought to rob him of his happiness by imprisonment. That robbery never took place; Mandela kept it in his core.

So all of us deserve happiness because we cannot say that so-and-so does not deserve happiness.

I know, I know, this is a long road for a short trip. But I cannot say that even the worst criminal does not deserve happiness at the core of his or her life. Oh, yes, do not mistake me, they must be held accountable for their crime. Due punishment must be meted out under the laws of the land. (Lest anyone wonder, I am NOT speaking about Nelson Mandela here.) But if this criminal will look inside and connect with The Cosmic Consciousness, and through that connection, find happiness, I cannot deny it to them. First, I do not have such power. Second, I am not the one who grants happiness, The Cosmic Consciousness does.

I believe every sentient being deserves happiness. Happiness of the sort that comes through the connection to and with The Cosmic Consciousness. Bliss. All deserve happiness or none do. The meaning of life is happiness. Grant to yourself that deservedness. Grant to everyone else the same.

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