The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

Once again a great question concerning the meaning of life has come from one of our readers. The person asked: “Do I deserve to be forgiven for drug addiction that greatly hurt my parents?” My immediate and unqualified answer was, “Yes.”

Everyone deserves forgiveness. Why? Because everyone has made mistakes. Some mistakes are hurtful. Some not so much. None of us is perfect. We all need to be forgiven and deserve to be forgiven. If someone were perfect, never having made a mistake, never said or done something stupid, then perhaps that someone could pass judgment on another. However, even God, whom many people feel is Perfection, forgives. That is to say, from my perspective, what I know of as God is completely accepting. Forgiveness is a given in God’s life, both literally and figuratively.

I have come to know I deserve forgiveness for this reason. God accepts me as I am. This is the reason everyone else deserves forgiveness as well. God accepts you just as you are.

Forgiveness, then, works for the forgiven. Obviously, the burden of shame and guilt can be lifted from the shoulders of the person who has said or done something that was hurtful. (And believe me when I say that I know it is not always easy to forgive. Some things are done or said that cause irrevocable harm.) When a person apologizes for what was said or done, tries to make amends, attempts to never do it again, then forgiveness offers a way to recover the natural dignity that belongs to the offender. (This does not necessarily mean that punishment should not be meted out.)

Nor does it mean that the offense should be forgotten. To forget about something that could cause you harm again; it is a fool’s way to live. When forgiveness is given, then every attempt ought to be made to move on as if the offense is forgotten.

People often forget, however, what forgiveness does for the forgiver. It most definitely lightens his or her load as well. To bear a grudge, to carry around a grievance weighs down the soul. It literally puts up a blockage which restricts the free flow of God’s love. Now, I did not say that God stops loving. I said the flow of that love is restrained. The person doing the restraining is the non-forgiver. It’s like a blight upon the soul. It will actually eat away at the soul of the carrier. When the non-forgiver looks at the one who needs forgiveness, all that can be seen is that blight. This is self-inflicted misery. The wretchedness that one feels when one does not forgive is of the non-forgiving person’s own making. Spiritual homicide upon the one who need forgiveness and the one who is non-forgiving.

Thus, the person who caused hurt in their parents deserves to be forgiven for at least these two reasons; 1. All fall short of the glory of God in us; no one never makes a mistake. 2. Burdens on both sides of the forgiveness fence are lifted and cast away.

Do you know someone who needs forgiving? Try to forgive in this moment. Do it now.

Are you the one who needs forgiveness? Apologize, try to make amends, try never to commit the forgiveness-needing-act again. Do it now.

And I invite you to pick up more info about deservedness in your life. I ask to you sign up for Free Instant Access to some of my Force-Source-Resources. One of which is titled, “All the Best – You Deserve It.” Remember, one bit of information can give you a superior point of activation. Just click here and you’ll be on your way. (Or, if it appears there, please sign up now in the upper right hand corner.) These resources will change your life as you better understand the meaning of life.

I was looking at the tweets from Twitter having something to do with the meaning of life.  Many dozens of folks mention or ask the direct question, “What is the meaning of life?” everyday on Twitter.

There are events and circumstances in life that we regard as good or evil. Many philosophers and gurus want us to consider all events as neither good nor bad. They insist that all events are neutral and we give them their connotation.

But, I think, for the average person this is a difficult task. When one is caught in the throws of what most everyone would call evil, persons cringe. In other words, how to help these folks as they are on their way to enlightenment. We are not all at the same level of insight.

As we work our way deeper into the Core of our beings, the Center where all is calm, how shall we deal with evil? Good, of course, is simply accepted and rejoiced in. But what of evil? Here is an answer.

In a Universe that is free, what some call bad things will happen. What some people call bad people will happen. Events or people choose to think that they must do what others call evil. Greatest example, perhaps: Adolf Hitler. He developed a plan to make certain persons superior to all others. He evolved a design that would eliminate those he saw as a problem. The point is, he believed he was correct. He found people who agreed with him. They set the plans in motion. At first he couldn’t be stopped.

It’s not that the Universe turned a blind-eye, by the way. There is operative in the Universe a mechanism called Karma. Karma basically means that what one does sets up a momentum that will flow back upon you. This is called, sometimes, “consequences.” Whatever one does, there are consequences.

When something bad is happening in your life, as you see it, that’s the very time you need to consider karma for both yourself and everyone and everything involved in the event. The first thing you need to realize is that there will be consequences for whoever perpetrated this negative upon you.

Then you need to try to make sure you do not retaliate in kind. You want your karma to be good. Defend yourself, for sure. Protect your life and property, if need be. Protect the lives of your loved ones, absolutely. But do not be the cause of evil yourself. (Defending your life, even if it results in the death of the one attacking you, is not evil, in my view.)

Deal with evil in the best way you can. Try to preserve your own good karma. (For some this answer will seem very simplistic. Not enough meat on the bones. That may well be true, but not everyone is at the same level of grace.) Small steps first. Till that day when you can see all events as neutral and you know yourself free to choose how to label them.

When you uphold your own good karma, you are reaffirming the meaning of life, which is to be happy.

And I invite you to pick up more info about happiness in your life. I ask to you sign up for Free Instant Access to some of my Force-Source-Resources. One of which is titled, “How to Use the Spiritual Circuit to Be a Good Person.” Remember, one bit of information can give you a superior point of activation. Just click here and you’ll be on your way. These resources will change your life. (Or, if it appears there, please sign up now in the upper right hand corner.)

Another reader of ours asked about the meaning of life in this way: “How can I bring a big social change?”

There are just two ways:

1. Prepare your own life by being in contact with the Divine at the core of your being. Find happiness there. Make that happiness secure and everlasting by remaining in contact with the Divine through everything.

To make a big change in any way is a daunting task. I believe it can be done. But it takes extraordinary courage, patient determination, never-give-up perseverance. These can only be maintained by a constant connection to the Meta Consciousness.

Prepare also for the backlash that will come. Any time anyone has tried to change the world, there has been a backlash of those and from those who do not want the world to change. History is rife with examples, Mahatma Gandhi among them, of persons who changed the world and paid a big price for it. This cannot be done unless you maintain linkage with the Divine Consciousness.

2. Be in the world that which you would have the world be. Mahatma Gandhi said it best, along these lines, “Be the thing you want to see change.” Then work.

Work. Day and night. Night and Day. You may even need to give up family and/or friends. The larger the change you want, the greater the cost. Always.

Here you make manifest the two aspects of the meaning of life: to be happy. A. You find your bliss within by linking and staying united with the Meta Consciousness. B. You beam that bliss into the physical world. Bliss and Beam are two sides of the same coin. One does not exist without the other.

So, you would change the world. You can do it. Prepare and work. Bliss and Beam. In this you will find the meaning of life.

And I invite you pick up more info about bliss and beam. I ask to you sign up for Free Instant Access to some of my Force-Source-Resources. One of which is titled, “How to Use the Spiritual Circuit to Be a Good Person.” Remember, one bit of information can give you a superior point of activation. Just click here and you’ll be on your way. These resources will change your life. (Or, if it appears there, please sign up now in the upper right hand corner.)