The Meaning of Life with Dr. Bob

“I am just not happy. What can I do?”

I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard that question in my professional life coaching career. Happiness seems so elusive for many people. But, thankfully, there is a simple answer. It was getting people to believe the answer and follow-through with it that was the problem. Don’t let that problem be yours.

Those who asked the above question were looking for happiness in the eyes or actions of others. Or there were depending upon this or that happening on the outside of them. They hope what might happen would impact them positively.

Happiness is found when we depend upon ourselves for it. Looking outside ourselves for anything or anyone to fulfill us is a mistake. Because it won’t happen. If it does happen, as we might like to think, its sham will not live long.

There is no real and lasting happiness save within ourselves. We must depend upon ourselves for our own happiness. You must depend upon yourself for your own happiness.

If you are looking for a specific mate to fulfill your love and sex dreams, you will disappoint yourself. Sex is ultimately empty without love. Yes, sex will help relieve tensions and is a natural relief when the drive builds up in us. But it is ultimately empty when there is little or no regard, on a

long term basis, for the partner. If you think a specific kind of man or woman will fulfill you, complete you, you are mistaken. This ideal-mate syndrome can get you into a lot of trouble down the road of the relationship. If you think you can change your mate-to-be to respond to you so as to make you whole, you are mistake. Grief is headed your way if you persist in that attitude.

You need to find your own happiness within. You need to be complete within yourself. You find this by making connection with the Cosmic Consciousness. You make that connection through prayer or meditation. Prayer is the longer road. Meditation, properly learned and maintained, is the shorter road to the Connection. I am not going to give you specific ways of meditating in this blog because there are many. You need to find one that fits you. (You can check out the SRF website list under Websites I Recommend, to the right.) But find one that fits you and use it.

This is the hard part for most folks. Most like the idea of finding happiness within themselves, That is, they like the idea of not depending on others or other things for happiness. But getting them to regularly meditate is difficult. You see, I cannot get you to make the connection. YOU must be willing to do this. This means you must depend upon yourself to bring lasting happiness to your own life. Not me. YOU. It is the way to the meaning of life.

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